Finding the right person that is going to love you for who you are—the good and the not so good—can be a wondrous and yet elusive thing. What does it take to find that magic in a bottle, that one person that changes everything by bringing you long lasting, romantic love?
As difficult as it is to meet someone, relationship expert Tammy Shaklee realized dating in the LGBTQ community was even more challenging due to the lack of matchmakers.
“As a straight ally, I was stunned when I couldn’t refer a gay friend to the same matchmaker who introduced me to my husband,” acknowledged Shaklee, president of H4M Matchmaking.
“It never occurred to me that certified matchmakers did not serve LGBT singles. After extensive research and focus group interviews, I designed and launched a matchmaking company to serve gay and lesbian singles from coast to coast in the U.S.”
H4M is exclusively designed for the LGBTQ niche, and only provides same-sex matching. “We are even a national resource for other matchmakers who may take an occasional gay or lesbian client, as we may collaborate and match our clients to each other, if compatible,” she enthused.
Shaklee and her team have been successfully introducing thousands of gay singles seeking long-term committed relationships since 2012. An LGBTQ ally and advocate, Shaklee well understands the challenges singles face when looking for a suitable mate, and has great advice for any prospective client.
“A personal matchmaker is ideal for a shy or more introverted single,” she noted. “We get to know our clients personally, and then represent them in setting them up with a compatible match. There is no need to complete a profile, or put a photo out there, as our introduction service does all of the work. We prepare each single with talking points and details to help enjoy a quality first date.”
To draw romantic love in, Shaklee recommends people work on themselves emotionally and mentally, so that they are ready for a relationship.
“There’s nothing sexier than to meet a person who is happy within, and who is authentic and genuine in wanting to know more about you. I encourage our clients to be healthy, happy, and safe. Living a well-balanced and well-rounded life is attractive to others.”
Prioritizing “self-care, fitness, health, and enjoy passions, hobbies, and interests” makes one an eligible single. Having an open heart and mind in meeting others will lead to eventually meeting a compatible partner,” she said.
After a personal Skype interview and criminal background check, Shaklee tells each compatible match about each other, then manages every detail of the first and second date, complete with a live verbal feedback call the morning following the introduction.
“We are completely offline and discreet and provide more traditional introductions, courting, and dating for eligible gay singles,” she said, adding that the company also provides unlimited dating coaching for all of their matchmaking clients.
Shaklee has had her own happy luck with a matchmaker, and was introduced to her husband 13 years ago.
“We’ve been married ten years; each of us had been married before, no kids,” Shaklee said candidly. “We are compatible in lifestyle, work drive and ambition, and personality. We share the same qualities and values. Ultimately, we respect each other’s needs and celebrate each other’s gifts and contributions to the relationship. We mutually respect and support each other as needed. We enjoy some independence, but know we’re partners for life.”
Utilizing skills honed in her previous career as a broadcast journalist, Shaklee’s reporter objective instincts, acute listening skills, and same-sex proprietary methodology, provide the ideal foundation for identifying true compatibility. Her unique process focuses on traditional introductions and dating for LGBTQ singles who are interested achieving relationship success.
When not actively pairing her clients, Shaklee is a regular relationship contributor to several LGBTQ media outlets and mainstream publications. She is currently working on the completion of her first book.
“I truly believe the world needs more love. Each one of us deserves love, however that looks and feels like to each individual. H4M recently expanded its services to transgender singles, and I’m proud to now match the spectrum of LGBTQ.”