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Holiday gift guide: Books
Something for every reader on your list
The tree looks magnificent.
Your kids did a great job decorating the parts you assigned to them; you took pictures this year, because they really outdid themselves. So youāre ready ā almost ā for the holidays, except for those few tricky gifts that you just canāt seem to figure out.
How about books? Easy to wrap, happy to get, why not look for these great books?
For the person on your list who loves dark, gothic romance-mysteries, wrap up āMourning Lightā by Richard Goodkin. Itās the story of a man who canāt let go of the guilt he feels since his lover died. Coincidentally, that death happened on the exact same day he met another man that he canāt stop thinking about.
The person on your gift list who loves a good memoir will want to read āA Place Called Homeā by David Ambroz. Itās a tale of homelessness, foster care, coming out, and how sheer determination put that all in one manās past.
If thereās someone on your gift list who made a difficult decision this year, āFamilies We Keepā by Rin Reczek and Emma Bosley-Smith is a book to carefully wrap up. Itās a look at LGBTQ individuals who have decided to stick with their families, though there may continue to be a struggle for acceptance or a total lack of it. It means work, and this book might help. Know your giftee well before giving this book.
Until recently, there really havenāt been a lot of books about bisexuality, which is why you might want to give āBi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexualityā by Julia Shaw to someone special. Thereās a lot to know about the subject, from genetics to legalities, celebrities to monogamy.
The trans reader on your gift list will want to own āFat, Crazy, and Tired: Tales from the Trenches of Transformationā by podcaster Van Lathan, who writes that being fat was harder than being Black. Needless to say, this book is funny and inspirational, and your giftee will love it. Pair it with āSide Affects: On Being Trans and Feeling Badā by Hil Malatino. If your giftee sometimes struggles, this book is great acknowledgement.
For the reader who loves history, āThe Womenās House of Detentionā by Hugh Ryan could be the perfect gift this year. Itās the story of a prison in New Yorkās Greenwich Village which, for nearly 45 years, was the landing place / home / jail for thousands and thousands of women, gender-nonconforming people, and transgender men. Angela Davis was there. So was Afeni Shakur. This book takes your giftee there, too. Wrap it up with āManifesting Justice: Wrongly Convicted Women Reclaim Their Rightsā by Valena Beety.
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Rob Anderson knows you think heās annoying
The Blade sat down with the Instagram comedian and āGay Scienceā author about viral fame, cringe comedy, and why gay men canāt sit in chairs
By Rob Salerno | WEST HOLLYWOOD – Rob Anderson understands why you mightāve blocked him. Over the last four years, Anderson has attracted more than four million followers across Instagram, Twitter, YouTube and TikTok.
But as he launches his latest book, Gay Science, collecting and expanding on his viral comedy video series that examines gay stereotypes through the ātotally scientific method,ā heās become pretty blasĆ© about the pitfalls of being promoted by the social media algorithms.
Anderson says he understands that despite his enormous success, the various social media platforms often push content at people who arenāt interested.
āI guess it is so annoying,ā he says with a laugh. āSo when people block me, Iām never like, āEw.ā I’m like, āNo, it’s annoying. I get it,ā
āWhen I first started making videos and then my followers were growing, I was blocking people left and right and for the same reason. I don’t hate them. It’s annoying to see this thing on my feed,ā he says. āThose Instagay couples that were always taking pictures. I blocked all of them.ā
Anderson spoke to The Blade in West Hollywood, where heās in town to promote Gay Science at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books with a panel discussion on āThe Gay Agendaā on April 21 ā two days before the book becomes available at bookstores everywhere.
He says he created the āGay Scienceā video series to poke fun at and reclaim stereotypes about gay men.
āI made my first video about why gay men like iced coffee because I wanted to have fun with those sorts of stereotypes I find online. Like why do gay guys run like that? Why do they write like girls, you know, and then all the other fun stereotypes that we’ve kind of like made up about ourselves like why we can’t sit in a chair the right way, because apparently we love having stereotypes,ā he says.
For the book, Anderson applies the same skewed scientific take to explain more than 50 different stereotypes across the entire LGBT spectrum. So the book has chapters that ask āAre Pansexual People Living Better Lives?ā āDoes College Make People Bi?ā and āDo Lesbians Hate Electricity?ā
āI challenged myself to write about everyone. I think everyone deserves to have something to laugh at because things are so awful politically. So asexual people, intersex, non-binary chapters. There’s a chapter āDid trans people invent pronouns?ā And, like everything else, the chapter proves thatās right.ā
Gay Science doesnāt take on the question of why so many gay men find Anderson annoying, but he has some theories.
āI attracted the attention of gay people, and some people choose to take that and give you back love, and then some people choose to take that and hate on you,ā he says. āIt’s really not even about me. It’s always about them, like something they’re going through.ā
āAnd honestly, I get it. Being gay is hard and we had a lot of tough times growing up, and then once you come out, you struggle to feel accepted in a gay space.ā
Maybe he can study this in Gay Science Volume 2.
And sometimes that backlash has just made Anderson even more powerful.
Two years ago, when he was about to go on his first comedy tour, a Twitter user from Washington, D.C. shared a now-infamous opinion about Andersonās $100 VIP meet-and-greet tickets.
āONE HUNDRED DOLLARS TO MEET R*B AND*RSON? When I can see him sucking dick on the dance floor at the after party for free? Iāll pass,ā wrote @livefreeordavid.
The tweet generated thousands of likes, retweets and comments ā many of them even more hateful. But the upshot is that Anderson sold out his D.C. shows within days and the rest of his tour shortly after. Anderson says he only learned about the tweet months later, when someone tagged him in the thread.
āI just kind of kept it. I screenshot it. I’m like, I just need to remember this. When people hate on you, it’s gonna be good. And I had to bring that back up again recently because I was on [Watch What Happens Live] for Gay Science and someone on Twitter was like, āOh, how embarrassing. He’s the bartender.ā They’re trying to hate on me for like being on TV.ā
Some of Andersonās zen attitude to toward the haters can also be attributed to a recent successful shift in his content. While he was working on the book Gay Science, he paused making new videos in the series ā all that new content is in the book.
Instead, he started posting video recaps of movies and TV shows from his youth, which has attracted a broader audience.
āI’d been rewatching Seventh Heaven and I was like, actually this show is ridiculous. I’m just gonna post about these shows. And those took off because it’s more universal. My audience has grown since then, and now it’s mostly not gay people.ā
āI really feeling like the content that I’m making is still gay. Like I’m a gay guy and you can tell that I’m not straight, but I get a lot less hate. Isn’t that crazy?ā
āNot just supportive, but fun DMs that were like, āyou need to do this movie because this is so fucking crazy.ā And it was because women are involved now and they’re just better than men,ā he says.
Maybe thatās another topic for future volumes of Gay Science.
Gay Science will be released in stores April 23.
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Rob Salerno is a writer and journalist based in Los Angeles, California, and Toronto, Canada.
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Out CBS reporter Jon Vigliotti recounts covering a warming planet
“I always loved storytelling,” said Vigliotti who grew up in the village of Mount Kisco in New York & now lives in Southern California
By Matthew S. Bajko, Assistant Editor | HOLLYWOOD, Calif. – In 2018, Jonathan Vigliotti was working as a foreign correspondent based out of CBS News’ London bureau. To say it was a coveted journalism job would be an understatement.
Yet, as he recounts in his debut book, “Before It’s Gone: Stories From the Front Lines of Climate Change in Small-Town America,” Vigliotti’s life would be upended professionally and personally by a warming planet. During a Cape Cod vacation that August with his family and husband, IvĆ”n Carrillo, Vigliotti fielded a call that had him making a hasty exit ā leaving his lobster dinner untouched ā to catch a flight for Southern California.
He was sent to cover a wildfire encroaching on the city of Lake Elsinore in Riverside County. The impromptu assignment led to him relocating to the national broadcaster’s Los Angeles Bureau the next year and taking on the natural disaster beat.
“In the time between then and now I have covered historic hurricanes, thermometer-shattering heat waves, record-breaking droughts, mega wildfires, back-to-back ‘hundred-year floods,’ unprecedented blizzards, and never-before-seen mudslides,” he writes in the prologue of his book.
Released in April by One Signal Publishers/Atria Books, a division of Simon & Schuster Inc., the book not only recounts his experiences covering a warming planet these past six years. It also serves as a memoir of his rising through the journalism ranks, from working for the NPR station based on the Bronx campus of his alma mater, Fordham University, to now being a national correspondent for CBS News.
“I always loved storytelling,” said Vigliotti, 41, who grew up in the village of Mount Kisco in New York.
Speaking with the Bay Area Reporter by phone, Vigliotti said he’s been a nature lover his entire life. He spent hours exploring the woods by his childhood home. When his parents joined the fight to stop a housing development that would have bulldozed his forested retreat, Vigliotti learned about the fragility of ecosystems and how collective actions can protect such places.
“It had a lasting impact on me,” he said. “My work as a professional journalist always has gravitated toward environmental stories.”
His book is broken into four parts centered on the elements of fire, water, air, and earth. The tragic events he’s covered are paired with solutions to mitigate the effect rising temperatures are having on communities across the U.S. (Vigliotti writes about reintroducing beavers to ward against wildfires in an excerpt of his book for this week’s Guest Opinion.)
“One of the reasons why I wrote the book is I feel climate change is abstract to people. Even people who may be climate deniers, I think that comes from a lack of understanding,” said Vigliotti. “One of the best ways to understand climate change is radicalizing our weather is to be there on the front lines. Through our reporting, I try to visually connect those dots for people.”
‘No warning’
A theme throughout the book is the oft repeated ā and disingenuous ā phrase, “There was no warning.” Time and time again local officials have known beforehand the threats their communities face from climate change, said Vigliotti.
“Why this happens is hard to say, but I do believe a lot of people find climate science to be overwhelming,” he said. “The solutions oftentimes seem daunting.”
Rather than dismiss climate change as “some politicized issue,” he hopes his audience sees it as the threat it is to their livelihoods and hometowns. He utilizes the term “habitat changes” in the book when writing about what is occurring due to changing climates.
“If saying climate change is a barrier for some people, maybe you don’t need to say it,” said Vigliotti. “As long as people understand weather is changing and an increased threat to communities on the front lines, the more people are willing to take action. That is my finding at least,” he said.
He believes the planet still has time before it’s gone.
“We are a very intelligent species, us humans. We have proven time and time again we have a unique ability to adapt, unlike some other species,” said Vigliotti. “I think we have an opportunity if we listen to the warning signs and take action to rebuild or upbuild our communities so they are resilient.”
Even more so than in his on air segments, Vigliotti is front and center throughout the book, talking to readers in the first person.
“I wasn’t sure how much of my own experience would be a part of this book. It documents my education and my understanding of the role climate change is having,” he said. “I felt like if I was going to invite readers into my world, I needed to be as honest as possible in those moments where I am sharing my personal experiences.”
Professionally, Vigliotti said he “never actively” hid being gay. But as he explains in the book, he routinely was “straightening out my gay” when sent to report in places like the Middle East.
An assistant news director at the Milwaukee TV station where he once worked advised him to “rein in the fagginess,” he writes. He also disclosed losing a network job “because the main anchor at the time didn’t like the way I ‘tracked.'”
Vigliotti told the B.A.R. he publicly came out in either 2011 or 2012. He credited gay CNN anchor Anderson Cooper, who is also a correspondent for CBS News’ “60 Minutes” newsmagazine, for giving him the courage to do so.
“The role I think he had in giving a voice to other journalists who were also quote-unquote closeted … I don’t know him personally but I am forever grateful for that,” said Vigliotti. “It gave me a way forward and a way to be more authentic as myself and more transparent without having to hide parts of myself.”
Doing so in his book marked a departure from his usual reporting focus.
“I have always believed as a journalist my role is to disappear into the background and to give a platform to the people I am interviewing. I always naturally shied away from sharing too much of myself to begin with,” said Vigliotti.
To not reveal his own story in his book would have been a disservice to his interview subjects, he reasoned.
“I have come to expect so much from people who are often sharing the worst moments of their life with me. I felt it would be a hindrance to not return that favor,” said Vigliotti, who is at work on expanding his nightly news broadcast’s coverage of small-town America.
The book doesn’t mark an end to his coverage of natural disasters. He plans to continue heeding the call when such assignments break.
“I do love California and do find a sense of purpose covering these kinds of stories,” said Vigliotti, who lives in Hollywood. “I will continue covering extreme weather events.”
The book can be purchasedĀ online here: (Link)
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The preceding article was previously published by the Bay Area Reporter and is republished with permission.
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New book offers observations on race, beauty, love
āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous Worldā is a journey of discovery
āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous World: A Decolonial Memoirā
By Shayla Lawson
c.2024, Tiny Reparations Books
$29/320 pages
Do you really need three pairs of shoes?
The answer is probably yes: you canāt dance in hikers, you canāt shop in stilettos, you canāt hike in clogs. So what else do you overpack on this long-awaited trip? Extra shorts, extra tees, you canāt have enough things to wear. And in the new bookĀ āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous WorldāĀ by Shayla Lawson, youāll need to bring your curiosity.
Minneapolis has always been one of their favorite cities, perhaps because Shayla Lawson was at one of Princeās first concerts. They werenāt born yet; they were there in their motherās womb and it was the first of many concerts.
In all their travels, Lawson has noticed that ābeing a Black Americanā has its benefits. People in other countries seem to hold Black Americans in higher esteem than do people in America. Still, thereās racism ā for instance, their husbandās family celebrates Christmas in blackface.
Yes, Lawson was married to a Dutch man they met in Harlem. āNot Haarlem,ā Lawson is quick to point out, and after the wedding, they became a housewife, learned the language of their husband, and fell in love with his grandmother. Alas, he cheated on them and the marriage didnāt last. He gave them a dog, which loved them more than the man ever did.
Theyāve been to Spain, and saw a tagline in which a dark-skinned Earth Mother was created. Said Lawson, āI find it ironic, to be ordained a deity when itās been a ā¦ journey to be treated like a person.ā
Theyāve fallen in love with āmiddle-American drag: itās the glitteriest because our mothers are the prettiest.ā They changed their pronouns after a struggle āto define my identity,ā pointing out that in many languages, pronouns are āgenderless.ā They looked upon Frida Kahlo in Mexico, and thought about their own disability. And they wish you a good trip, wherever youāre going.
āNo matter where you are,ā says Lawson, āmay you always be certain who you are. And when you are, get everything you deserve.ā
Crack open the front cover of āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous Worldā and you might wonder what the heck you just got yourself into. The first chapter is artsy, painted with watercolors, and difficult to peg. Stick around, though. It gets better.
Past that opening, author Shayna Lawson takes readers on a not-so-little trip, both world-wide and with observant eyes ā although it seems, at times, that the former is secondary to that which Lawson sees. Readers wonāt mind that so much; the observations on race, beauty, love, the attitudes of others toward America, and finding oneās best life are really what takes the wheel in this memoir anyhow. Reading this book, therefore, is not so much a vacation as it is a journey of discovery and joy.
Just be willing to keep reading, thatās all you need to know to get the most out of this book. Stick around and āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous Worldā is what to pack.
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Story of paralysis and survival features queer characters
āUnswerving: A Novelā opens your eyes and makes you think
āUnswerving: A Novelā
By Barbara Ridley
c.2024, University of Wisconsin Press
$19.95 / 227 pages
It happened in a heartbeat.
A split-second, a half a breath, thatās all it took. It was so quick, so sharp-edged that you can almost draw a line between before and after, between then and now. Will anything ever be the same again? Perhaps, but maybe not. As in the new bookĀ āUnswervingāĀ by Barbara Ridley, things change, and so might you.
She could remember lines, hypnotizing yellow ones spaced on a road, and her partner, Les, asleep in the seat beside her. It was all so hazy. Everything Tave Greenwich could recall before she woke up in a hospital bed felt like a dream.
It was as though sheād lost a month of her life.
āLife,ā if you even wanted to call it that, which she didnāt. Taveās hands resembled claws bent at the wrist. Before the accident, she was a talented softball catcher but now she could barely get her arms to raise above her shoulders. She could hear her stomach gurgle, but she couldnāt feel it. Paralyzed from the chest down, Tave had to have help with even the most basic care.
She was told that she could learn some skills again, if she worked hard. She was told that sheād leave rehab some day soon. What nobody told her was how Les, Leslie, her partner, girlfriend, love, was doing after the accident.
Physical therapist Beth Farringdon was reminded time and again not to get over-involved with her patients, but she saw something in Tave that she couldnāt ignore. Beth was on the board of directors of a group that sponsored sporting events for disabled athletes; she knew people who could serve as role models for Tave, and she knew that all this could ease Taveās adjustment into her new life. It was probably not entirely in her job description, but Beth couldnāt stop thinking of ways to help Tave who, at 23, was practically a baby.
She could, for instance, take Tave on outings or help find Les ā even though it made Bethās own girlfriend, Katy, jealous.
So, hereās a little something to know before you start reading āUnswervingā: author Barbara Ridley is a former nurse-practitioner who used to care for patients with spinal cord injuries. That should give readers a comfortable sense of satisfaction, knowing that her experiences give this novel an authenticity that feels right and rings true, no faking.
But thatās not the only appeal of this book: while there are a few minor things that might have readers shaking their heads (HIPAA, anyone?), Ridleyās characters are mostly lifelike and mostly likable. Even the nasties are well done and the mysterious character thatās there-not-there boosts the appeal. Put everyone together, twist a little bit to the left, give them some plotlines that canāt ruined by early guessing, and youāve got a quick-read novel that you can enjoy and feel good about sharing.
And share you will because this is a book that may also open a few eyes and make readers think. Start āUnswervingā and youāll (heart) it.
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Mark S. King chronicles & celebrates 40 years of surviving with HIV
From addiction and recovery, fear to PrEP, stigma to fetish, King has seen it all. He will be in West Hollywood on April 8
By Rob Salerno | WEST HOLLYWOOD – Nearly forty years ago, Mark King tested positive for HIV in a clinic in West Hollywood. Back in 1985, there was no reliable treatment for HIV and a positive test was understood by many to be a death sentence. Many of the hundreds of thousands of young gay men who received an HIV diagnosis at the time began writing their wills.Ā
Mark King began writing essays.
Since the early days of the HIV epidemic, King has been chronicling life with the virus in virus in My Fabulous Disease, a column that was syndicated in gay newspapers and magazines across the country ā back when most cities in America had local gay news outlets ā before moving to his blog.
Now a selection of those essays has been published as My Fabulous Disease: Chronicles of a Gay Survivor, and King will be presenting readings of his essays by other well-known long-term survivors at āA Gathering of Long-Term Survivorsā at the West Hollywood Library on April 8.
āIt turns out that if you live long enough and you write long enough you gather a volume of work along the way,ā King tells me over Zoom from his home in Atlanta. āI just wanted to tell the story from that time till now because as the years have gone on, the story changed about what it’s like to get up and live again.ā
King has also lived long enough to see the social perception of people living with HIV transition from them being tragic angels into a looming threat, a shift he chronicles in his essay āThe Sound of Stigma.ā
āIn the early days, we were innocent tragic victims they didn’t have to think too much about because we were going to be dead soon anyway, so you might as well feel sorry for us. Then as we became healthier, and suddenly we returned to the social scene and to the dance floor and to the bathhouses, that’s when HIV stigma really started to rise again because we wanted to be amongst the rest of you,ā he says.
King is quick to name PrEP as one of the most impactful developments in how queer people face HIV. He says the once-a-day pill that can be taken to prevent acquiring HIV shifted the burden of the disease onto people who are HIV-negative.
āHIV-negative people were being mocked and criticized and shamed for even considering to take PrEP. What’s wrong with you? How big a slut are you? Why don’t you use a condom?ā he says. āIt was ironic because suddenly HIV-negative men were getting the same shit thrown at them about their worth and their sexual lives as those of us living with HIV had.ā
āWhat was so threatening about prep is that it put prevention into the hands of people who do not have HIV, as opposed to always having the burden on those of us living with HIV.ā
Kingās writing about HIV is both a significant historical artifact of what life was like under the greatest crisis to afflict our community, and a prescient accounting of who we are today. Through his essays about pornography, sex, fetishes, dating and more, King reveals that the more the community changes, the more it stays the same.
King says that the speaking tour in support of his book has shown him how relevant his essays remain to newer generations of gay men who havenāt had to come of age with the specter of HIV.
In the unique format of Kingās book tour, heās invited other queer men to read his essays, which he says puts a new spin on things.
āA young man [at a reading] in Chicago read my piece, āProbing my Analphobia,ā about when I was just a little twink and one completely disastrous douching,ā King says. āAnyway, I ruined his entire bedroom. I mean ruined ruined it. And it’s all very explicit in the essay and I was really just doing it for laughs and to see what I could get away with telling this terrible story.
āAnd when he finished reading it, he said, āI really want to thank you for writing this because I was so ashamed of the mechanics of gay sex. I didn’t know what I didn’t know and you have lifted the veil in this essay. You make it okay,ā he says.
Some of the notable people presenting readings of My Fabulous Disease in West Hollywood include city council member John Heilman, ABC News Broadcaster Karl Schmid, and actor Dean Testerman.
A Gathering of Long-Term SurvivorsĀ will take place at the West Hollywood Library Meeting Room at 625 N San Vicente Blvd, on April 8 from 7-8:30pm.Ā My Fabulous Disease is available in paperback or ebook.
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Rob Salerno is a writer and journalist based in Los Angeles, California, and Toronto, Canada.
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Examining importance of queer places in history of arts and culture
āNothing Ever Just Disappearsā shines with grace and lyrical prose
āNothing Ever Just Disappears: Seven Hidden Queer Historiesā
By Diarmuid Hester
c.2024, Pegasus Books
$29.95/358 pages
Go to your spot.
Where that is comes to mind immediately: a palatial home with soaring windows, or a humble cabin in a glen, a ramshackle treehouse, a window seat, a coffeehouse table, or just a bed with a special blanket. Itās the place where your mind unspools and creativity surges, where you relax, process, and think. Itās the spot where, as in the new bookĀ āNothing Ever Just DisappearsāĀ by Diarmuid Hester, you belong.
Clinging āto a spit of land on the south-east coast of Englandā is Prospect Cottage, where artist and filmmaker Derek Jarman lived until he died of AIDS in 1994. Itās a simple four-room place, but it was important to him. Not long ago, Hester visited Prospect Cottage to āexamine the importance of queer places in the history of arts and culture.ā
So many āqueer spacesā are disappearing. Still, we can talk about those that arenāt.
In his classic book, āMaurice,ā writer E.M. Forster imagined the lives of two men who loved one another but could never be together, and their romantic meeting near a second-floor window. The novel, when finished, āproved too radical even for Forster himself.ā He didnāt āallowā its publication until after he was dead.
āPatriarchal power,ā says Hester, largely controlled who was able to occupy certain spots in London at the turn of the last century. Still, āqueer suffragettesā there managed to leave their mark: women like Vera Holme, chauffeur to suffragette leader Emmeline Pankhurst; writer Virginia Woolf; newspaperwoman Edith Craig, and others who āmade enormous contributions to the cause.ā
Josephine Baker grew up in poverty, learning to dance to keep warm, but she had Paris, the city that āmade her into a star.ā Artist and ātransgender iconā Claude Cahun loved Jersey, the place where she worked to āshow just how much gender is masquerade.ā Writer James Baldwin felt most at home in a small town in France. B-filmmaker Jack Smith embraced New York ā and vice versa. And on a personal journey, Hester mourns his friend, artist Kevin Killian, who lived and died in his beloved San Francisco.
Juxtaposing place and person, āNothing Ever Just Disappearsā features an interesting way of presenting the idea that both are intertwined deeper than it may seem at first glance. The point is made with grace and lyrical prose, in a storytellerās manner that offers back story and history as author Diarmuid Hester bemoans the loss of āqueer spaces.ā This is really a lovely, meaningful book ā though readers may argue the points made as they pass through the places included here. Landscapes change with history all the time; donāt modern āqueer spacesā count?
Thatās a fair question to ask, one that could bring these āhiddenā histories full-circle: We often preserve important monuments from history. In memorializing the actions of the queer artists whoāve worked for the future, the places that inspired them are worth enshrining, too.
Reading this book may be the most relaxing, soothing thing youāll do this month. Try āNothing Ever Just Disappearsā because it really hits the spot.
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Upcoming books offer something for every reader
From a history of the gay right to a look at queer womenās spaces
Daylight Savings Time has arrived, giving you more sunlight in the evening and more time to read. So why not look for these great books this spring?
If your taste runs to historical novels, youāre in luck. When Yorick spots his name on the list of the missing after the Titanic sinks, he believes this to be an omen: nobodyās looking for him, so maybe this is his opportunity to move to Paris and open that bookstore heās been dreaming about. In āThe Titanic Survivors Book Clubā by Timothy Schaffert (Doubleday, $29.00) his decision leads to more than a bucolic little business. Out April 2.
If youāre looking for something a little on the lighter side, discoverĀ āRiley Weaver Needs a Date to the Gaybutante BallāĀ by Jason June (HarperTeen, $19.99). Young adult books are perfect light reading for adults, and this one is full of high-school drama, romance, comedy, and more drama. What fun! Out May 23.
Canāt get enough of graphic novels? Then look for āEscape from St. Hell: A Graphic Novelā by Lewis Hancox (Graphix, $14.99). Itās the continuing story of Lew, who just wants to live his life as a guy, which he started doing in the last novel (āWelcome to St. Hellā) but you know what they say about one door closing, one door opening. In this new installment, Lew grapples with the changes heās made and how his friends and family see things, too. This book is fresh and honest and great for someone whoās just transitioned. Out May 7.
For the mystery lover, you canāt go wrong with āClean Kill: A Nicky Sullivan Mysteryā by Anne Laughlin (Bold Strokes, $18.95). As the manager of a sober living home in Chicago, Nicky Sullivan has her hands full with 10 other residents of the home. But when one of them is murdered, Sullivan reaches back into her past as an investigator to find the killer by calling on her old partner. Fortunately, heās still working. Also fortunately, heās got a new partner and she catches Sullivanās eye. Can love and murder mix? Out May 14.
Canāt get enough of politics? Then youāll be happy to find āComing out Republican: A History of the Gay Rightā by Neil J. Young (University of Chicago Press, $30). In the fractious political atmosphere we have now, itās essential to understand how gay conservatives have influenced politics through the decades. Find this book before November. It may be one of the most eye-opening books youāll read. Out April 3.
The reader who loves her āspaceā will want to take āA Place of Our Own: Six Spaces That Shaped Queer Womenās Cultureā by June Thomas (Seal Press, $30) there to read. Itās a book about historically safe places for queer women to be themselves ā and some are surprisingly very public. Interviews with iconic feminists and lesbians round out a great look at the locales that queer women have claimed for their own. Out May 28.
And now the housekeeping: Release dates can change and titles can be altered at the last minute, so check with your favorite bookseller or librarian. Theyāll also have more recommendations if you need them because thereās a lot of time for reading now.
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A travel memoir with a queer, Black sensibility
Nonbinary author Shayla Lawson is the Joan Didion of our time
āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous World: A Decolonial Memoirā
By Shayla Lawson
c.2024, Tiny Reparations Books
$29/320 pages
Joan Didion, one of the greatest writers and journalists of the 20th century and 2000s, wrote superbly crafted essays ā telling engaging stories about the places she traveled to. Reading her, you sensed Didion reacting personally to her travels, and, as a writer, clocking it. To write in stories for her readers.
Shayla Lawson, a nonbinary, Black, disabled poet and journalist, is the Joan Didion of our time.
Their new work,Ā āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous World: A Decolonial Memoir,āĀ is a provocative, impeccably crafted, hard-to-put down, travel memoir in essays. (Lawson uses they/them pronouns.)
Lawson is author of āThis is Major,ā which was a finalist for the National Book Criticsā Circle and the LAMBDA Literary Award, and the author of two poetry collections, āA Special Education in Human Beingā and āI Think Iām Ready to See Frank Ocean.ā They have written for New York Magazine, Salon, ESPN and Paper, and earned fellowships from the Yaddo and the MacDowell Artist Colony.
Yet, despite this impressive track record, Lawson, who grew up in Kentucky, and has lived and traveled everywhere from the Netherlands to Brazil to Los Angeles to Kyoto, Japan to Mexico to Shanghai, had to wait nine years before a publisher would wrap their head around releasing a travel memoir in essays.
Thankfully, Lawson had the chutzpah to persist in seeking a home for her memoir. Kudos to Tiny Reparations Books for valuing Lawsonās writing and publishing āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous World.ā
From the get-go of their memoir, Lawson draws us in. Weāre with them on the plane. Right away, weāre with Lawson ā a writer whoās clocking it ā telling their story ā while theyāre on the plane. At the same time, weāre reading the story that Lawsonās writing.
In a few nano-secs, we get that Lawsonās stories have a queer, Black sensibility.
āOur story starts in an airplane,ā Lawson writes in the opening of the memoir, āwith the sound of long acrylic nails tapping on laptop keys, the sound of black femme poeticsā¦ā
āOnly connect,ā writes queer writer E.M. Forster in his 1910 novel āHowards End.ā
Lawsonās daring memoir is a dazzling mosaic of connections between race, class, gender, sexuality, death, queerness, love, disability, grief and beauty.
Lawson met Kees, their ex-husband, a white man from the Netherlands, when he was in Harlem during a layover on a flight to Brazil for a six-month back-packing trip through South America, Lawson recalls. They meet cute over pizza, fall in love, and marry.
In the Netherlands, Lawson has to learn a new language and is stuck living in a beautiful, but boring village. They volunteer at a refugee village, that Lawson discovered had been an āinsane asylum.ā That village, Lawson thought, wasnāt beautiful.
Lawson discovers beauty and sexuality when she meets up with a hunky gondolier in Venice.
In post-dictatorship Zimbabwe, they experience what itās like to hang out with other Black people, where everyone is Black.
In one of the memoirās most compelling chapters, Lawson visits artist Frida Kahloās house in Mexico City. Kahlo was disabled. She had spina bifida.
At age 39, Lawson was diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. They have chronic pain from the disability.
A doctor (with the bedside manner of Attila the Hun) told Lawson that they would die. āItās a strong presentation,ā Lawson remembers the doc said to her.
Often, disability is left out of storytelling. If included, itās put in a box ā separated, disconnected, from other intersections of the narrative (gender, sexuality, race, class, sexual orientation, etc.).
One out of five Americans is disabled, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, and Lawson writes, post-COVID that 60 percent of Americans have been diagnosed as chronically ill.
Lawson brings ableism out of the shadows.
Iām white, cisgender, queer and legally blind. Iām one of the many for whom Lawsonās experience of ableism will ring true.
Theyāve ācalled me a bitch,ā for moving slower, Lawson writes.
The last time Lawson traveled when āI didnāt return in a wheelchair,ā was 2019, they write.
But that wonāt stop them from traveling, Lawson writes.
āHow do I want to live,ā Lawson asks, āin such a way that someone will be honored by how I die.ā
āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous Worldā is exhilarating, but sometimes discomforting reading. Lawson makes you think. If youāre white and, using all the right pronouns, for instance, you can still be clueless about racism or being entitled.
But Lawsonās memoir isnāt a hectoring sermon. Itās a frisson of freedom, liberation and hope.
āNo matter where you are, may you always be certain who you are,ā Lawson writes, āAnd when you are, get everything you deserve.ā
Check it out. You wonāt be able to get it out of your head.
Books
Gay author takes us on his journey to fatherhood in āSafeā
One manās truth about the frustrations and rewards of fostering
āSafe: A Memoir of Fatherhood, Foster Care, and the Risks We Take for Familyā
By Mark Daley
c.2024, Atria Books
$28.99/304 pages
The closet is full of miniature hangers.
The mattress bumpers match the drapes and the rug beneath the tiny bed. Thereās a rocker for late-night fusses, a tall giraffe in the corner, and wind-up elephants march in a circle over the crib. Now you just need someone to occupy that space and in the new book,Ā āSafeāĀ by Mark Daley, thereās more than one way to accomplish that dream.
Jason was a natural-born father.
Mark Daley knew that when they were dating, when he watched Jason with his nephew, with infants, and the look on Jasonās face when he had one in his arms. As a gay man, Daley never thought much having a family but he knew Jason did ā and so, shortly after their wedding, they began exploring surrogacy and foster-to-adopt programs.
Daley knew how important it was to get the latter right: his mother had a less-than-optimal childhood, and she protected her own children fiercely for it. When Daley came out to her, and to his father, he was instantly supported and thatās what he wanted to give: support and loving comfort to a child in a hard situation.
Or children, as it happened. Just weeks after competing foster parenting classes and after telling the social worker theyād take siblings if there was a need, the prospective dads were offered two small brothers to foster.
It was love at first sight but euphoria was somewhat tempered by courts, laws, and rules. Their social worker warned several times that reunification of the boys with their parents was āPlan A,ā but Daley couldnāt imagine it. The parents seemed unreliable; they rarely kept appointments, and they didnāt seem to want to learn better parenting skills. The mother all but ignored the baby, and the child noticed.
So did Daley, but the courts held all the power, and predicting an outcome was impossible.
āAll we had was the present,ā he said. āIf I didnāt stay in it, I was going to lose everything I had.ā So was there a Happily-Ever-After?
Ah, you wonāt find an answer to that question here. Youāll need to read āSafeā and wear your heart outside your chest for an hour or so, to find out. Bring tissues.
Bring a sense of humor, too, because author and founder of One Iowa Mark Daley takes readers along on his journey to being someoneās daddy, and he does it with the sweetest open-minded open-heartedness. Heās also Mama Bear here, too, which is just what you want to see, although there can sometimes be a lot of tiresome drama and over-fretting in that.
And yet, this isnāt just a sweet, but angst-riddled, tale of family. If youāre looking to foster, hereās one manās truth about the frustrations, the stratospheric-highs, and the deep lows. Will your foster experiences be similar? Maybe, but reading this book about it is its own reward.
āSafeā soars and it dives. It plays with your emotions and it wallows in anxiety. If youāre a parent, though, youāll hang on to every word.
Books
āSeekā shows how one tiny action can open big doors
New book could ātransform your life and change the worldā
āSeek: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the Worldā
By Scott Shigeoka
c.2023, Balance
$30/243 pages
Curiosity killed the cat.
Thatās what Grandma said when you were a nosy little kid but hey, you needed to learn about your world. Asking questions, thatās what kids do ā and so do savvy grown-ups. Curiosity may have plagued Grandmaās cat but as youāll see inĀ āSeekāĀ by Scott Shigeoka, a lack of it could do you harm.
His friends worried about him.
When Scott Shigeoka quit his job to travel around America for a year, they figured heād be the target of all kinds of bad things. As a queer Asian-American man, Shigeoka wasnāt searching for himself, and he surely wasnāt looking for trouble. No, he was looking for strangers, to see what we have in common with one another.
āI wanted to feel less scared and angry all the time,ā he says.
Shigeokaās interpretation of studies is that our general lack of curiosity about one another āis literally killing us.ā With that in mind, he left his home and his job and headed out to small towns in the South, a reservation in Minnesota, a Trump rally, and a retreat center with nuns and millennials. He squashed his inner negativity, bravely swallowed his reluctance, approached people, and cultivated his curiosity by speaking with religious leaders, zealots, and everyday folks. In doing so, he learned to D.I.V.E. into his outward curiosity.
Detach, he says, and let go of āthe ABCsā: assumptions, biases, and certainty. Even if you think youāre against racism, homophobia, or any other intolerance, you āstill have unconscious biases that need to beā¦ interrupted and challenged.ā Learn to act with Intent. Know what questions to ask so that you can best learn about others and their thoughts. Show someone their Value by remembering that their political leaning, for instance, āis only one piece of a personās life and personality.ā And finally, learn to Embrace whatās in front of you. This will āopen the doorsā to āmore fulfillment and happiness to your life.ā
Does it sometimes seem as though todayās world is filled with awkward moments? Like you want to communicate with people you meet, but the rules have changed? Or maybe you have and if thatās the case, then author Scott Shigeoka has a fix. In āSeek,ā he shows how one tiny action can open great big doors.
It seems kind of fun, actually: you meet someone new, show a gentle bit of interest and pay attention, ask a few open-ended questions, and voila! New friend or client. New, healthy lines of communication. New or enhanced working relationship. Big yay.
And yet ā while this book is very useful, easy to grasp, and enthusiastic, Shigeoka has very few cautionary words to offer readers who may be too eager. Some of the ideas here, in the wrong hands, may be perceived as obnoxious or threatening. Understanding when to back off might have been good advice here, too.
Keep that in mind, know your target, open your heart, and have fun. If your curiosity needs fluffing up, āSeekā may be the purrfect book for you.
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