At my stage of life — “somewhere between 40 and death,” as the iconic line goes in the musical “Mame” — I want some pampering. A lot of pampering. 

Luckily, for anyone who constantly craves a soothing spa, steam room or sauna, there’s the completely updated Mercedes S-Class. This flagship sedan is now so full of glitz, glamour, and gee-whiz gadgetry, it gives new meaning to the term “auto erotica.” 

Does this make the S-Class a “gay” ride? For me, any vehicle that pushes my buttons like this one is a Kinsey 6.

MERCEDES S-CLASS

$122,000 (est.)

MPG: 21 city/31 highway

0 to 60 mph: 4.3 seconds

Trunk space: 19 cu. ft. 

PROS: Exceptional comfort. Ultra-quiet cabin. Cutting-edge safety.

CONS: Price climbs fast. Tech learning curve. Sportier competitors.    

The S-Class continues to define what luxury really means, with a bolder silhouette, larger grille, and striking, next-gen LED headlights. There’s also an optional illuminated Mercedes star on the hood. Overall, nearly 2,700 parts are new or improved, so more than 50 percent of this vehicle has been updated. An extreme makeover, to be sure. 

At the same time, this latest S-Class leans harder into intelligence and electrification than ever before. Under the hood, a range of turbocharged inline-six and V8 engines — paired with mild-hybrid systems — deliver power in a way that seems almost edited for smoothness. Braking is solid and strong, too, but never abrupt. All the engineering is fine-tuned and intentional.

Yes, the top-of-the line S580 version is more expensive, almost $140,000. But it’s also blisteringly fast, zipping from 0 to 60 mph in just 3.9 seconds. That’s as lickety-split swift as a Lamborghini Revuelto supercar, which has a starting MSRP of $610,000 and can easily exceed — yowza! — $800,000.

Colors? There are 150 to choose from for the exterior and 400 for the interior. You can even customize the illuminated door sills, interior stitching and wheel accents.

And the ride quality? Sublime. Adaptive air suspension reads the road constantly, leveling out imperfections before they even register. Rear-axle steering enhances maneuverability, making this full-sized sedan feel surprisingly nimble in tight spaces. On the highway, the S-Class simply glides like a private yacht on the calmest of seas — extremely quiet, composed and completely unbothered.

Whenever you slide inside, the cabin immediately sets the tone. A massive OLED digital display — the same high-def technology used for cinematic viewing and gaming monitors — anchors the dashboard, running the latest MBUX infotainment interface. Highly customizable, this software allows for advanced voice commands that feel natural, not forced. And an augmented-reality navigation system takes your route and overlays it onto live camera feeds. It’s intuitive — mostly, as there is a learning curve for all this cutting-edge gear. Overall, though, such amenities make older setups feel like dial-up internet. 

A Burmester surround-sound stereo is available in 3D or 4D, with up to 31 speakers, 1,690 watts and tactile transducers in the seats that vibrate and pulse with the music. Those seats are, of course, extremely comfortable. And the seatbelts? These are now heated. 

Let’s not forget the latest cabin air-filtration system, which can remove ultra-fine particles to deliver air quality that rivals medical environments. Clean air, yes, but even this seems like a special treat. It’s like being swaddled in couture, not ready-to-wear. 

And lastly, there’s the rear-seat area, which — to be honest — is where the S-Class really shines. Executive packages offer multi-contour reclining seats with rapid heating and ventilating, heated armrests and massage functions. You can opt for a footrest, which ups the glam factor to give you a calf massage. Dual 13.1-inch display screens come with their own remote controls. There’s also a video-conferencing feature, to help transform the rear cabin into a fully connected mobile office. For me, it feels less “back seat” and more “private lounge.” 

Even in fiction, high-tech luxury carries weight. Tony Stark helped cement the idea that state-of-the art vehicles can be aspirational, not just practical. The magical S-Class fits right into that narrative — minus the flying suit (for now).

Lotions, gels, and lubes. Oh my! Pride season is on the horizon, and everyone wants to look and feel their best in their own skin. With so many skincare products on the market, it’s hard to discern what the right regimen is for you.

Some have an all-in-one bottle (those never work well), and others can’t figure out what works for them, so their bathrooms are littered with various body washes, lotions, serums, etc. In the end, they’re doing a disservice to their skin. It’s particularly difficult for those with sensitive skin, as many products contain harsh chemicals that can react poorly, and for those who shave, it’s even worse. As the name suggests, queer-owned Hey Sweet Cheeks is a skincare and sexcare brand specializing in maintaining blemish-free, glowing cheeks (and we’re not talking about your face). With their unique pH-balanced and hypoallergenic formulas, Hey Sweet Cheeks keeps your skin ready from “prep-to-play.” Does it stack up to the claims? As a new advertiser with the Blade, I wanted to test out a few of their products for myself.

First up, BARE IT ALL BHA blemish-clearing body wash. It all begins with proper cleansing, and body wash is key. BARE IT ALL is light on fragrance, for sensitive skin, that’s also refreshing. I noticed a noticeable change in softness and shine. The gentle combination of salicylic acid and oat milk efficiently kept skin clear and hydrated, which is particularly important after shaving. If you’re as physically active as I am, then you know how important body wash can be to removing sweat and dirt and feeling clean. Some products are overly fragrant, and others can leave your skin feeling heavy. After showering with BARE IT ALL BHA, my skin didn’t feel dry nor did it feel oily with residue – just clean and refreshed. 

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Second on the list, IT’S GLOWTIME skin-perfecting body-clearing lotion. Lotion is especially important after shaving sensitive areas. Skin can irritate very easily, and blemishes/ingrowns are painful and unsightly. Consistent use of IT’S GLOWTIME proved to not only maintain the integrity of my skin, but kept it soft and hydrated through its most vulnerable moments, one being walking while freshly shaven. Many of us know how quickly a fresh shave can turn into a beautiful disaster. The right lotion can make all the difference. IT’S GLOWTIME absorbed into my skin easily and evenly, giving it instant hydration. It also kept my legs and cheeks soft and smooth throughout all my travels. 

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Lastly, to round out this “prep-to-play” review, I chose the water and silicone hybrid-based lubricant BACKSIDE GLIDE. The hybrid formula is unique. It seems to be the best of both worlds – the smooth, silkiness of silicone, but not difficult to clean up, like most silicone lubes. Water-based lubes are generally easier to clean up than silicone-based ones; however, they tend to dry out more quickly, causing irritation or reapplication. The hybrid combination in BACKSIDE GLIDE gives you the longevity of silicone lube, but it’s less messy and easier to clean as with water based lubes. If you’re looking for a longer-lasting lubricant with that silicone feeling, but without the mess, then BACKSIDE GLIDE is for you. 

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Overall, I really enjoyed all three of these products. As someone who works out regularly and sweats often, my skin is prone to blemishes, discoloration, and ingrown hairs. I found that consistent use of these products improved the overall health of my skin while also maintaining clear skin.  Hey Sweet Cheeks body wash and lotion is an easy and great two-step regimen that anyone can add or replace in their skincare routine. Follow it up with their water/silicone hybrid lube, and you’ll be ready for Pride season! So if you’re struggling with sensitive skin and blemishes in more sensitive regions of your body, then these products could be your solution.

Be sure to visit Hey Sweet Cheeks. Hey Sweet Cheeks is a proud advertiser of the Los Angeles Blade and will be on the scene for our free Pride singles mixer on June 16th at Mattie’s in West Hollywood. Details coming soon!

Steven Dehler is ISSA certified and a bodybuilding specialist. As a model, dancer, and musician, he performs throughout SoCal and is a co-host of the On the Rocks: Where Celebrities & Cocktails Mix podcast.

As renewed national attention on the Epstein files forces another public reckoning around power, accountability, and the failures of institutions to protect survivors, advocates, lawmakers, and community leaders gathered in Hollywood on Thursday night for the 2026 Bridge to Justice Gala hosted by the Survivor Justice Center.

Held beneath the polished backdrop of a Hollywood gala, the evening’s conversations focused on far more than celebrity or recognition. Again and again, speakers returned to the realities survivors face long after public attention fades: navigating restraining orders, immigration systems, housing insecurity, legal retaliation, and institutions that often fail to deliver protection.

The Los Angeles-based nonprofit provides free legal representation and holistic support to survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking in under-resourced communities. 

Throughout the night, advocates emphasized that awareness alone does not create safety, particularly for survivors already marginalized by poverty, immigration status, race, gender identity, or documentation status.

Actor and activist Alyssa Milano received the organization’s 2026 Voice for Justice Award for her years of advocacy and for helping amplify the #MeToo movement into a global cultural reckoning in 2017, building on the longstanding work of activist Tarana Burke.

Nearly a decade later, Milano reflected on both the progress and the limitations of that moment.

“There have been a lot of changes, but not enough has changed,” Milano told the Los Angeles Blade. “I think we’re still in the middle of a reckoning. People are aware now that we’re not going to hide in corners anymore, and that we’re going to talk to each other and support each other through the process of being a woman and what that journey means for us.”

When asked about escalating attacks on transgender people nationwide, a topic Montoya connected to her own experiences as a survivor and trans woman, Milano rejected efforts to separate trans rights from broader struggles around bodily autonomy and gender justice.

“Trans rights are human rights,” Milano said. “I truly believe that oppression is one of the most painful things in the world, and any kind of hierarchy is painful for everyone. Until we can all be free, none of us can be free.”

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California State Senator Susan Rubio was honored with the Phoenix Award for her legislative work expanding protections for survivors across California, including the landmark Phoenix Act, which extended the statute of limitations for many domestic violence-related crimes.

Rubio, one of the few Latinas serving in the California Senate, spoke about the need for survivor protections that account for the realities faced by immigrants, low-income communities, transgender people, and survivors who remain vulnerable even after leaving abusive situations.

“One thing I really want to focus on is creating policies that help everyone,” Rubio said. “One of the bills I’m currently working on would alert victims when their abuser is nearby. We already have Amber Alerts that notify the public during emergencies, and I want to figure out how we can use evolving technology to notify survivors when an abuser is in their vicinity so they can get to safety.”

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Applause repeatedly interrupted the evening as survivors and advocates spoke candidly about abuse, retraumatization within the legal system, and the exhaustion of continuing to fight for safety years after escaping violence.

Rubio also spoke openly about how her own experiences as a survivor continue to shape her work in office.

“This issue is deeply personal to me,” Rubio said. “I’m a survivor myself, so this work comes from personal experience. I know how hard it is for victims to find support.”

Later in the conversation, Rubio revealed that she is currently on her third restraining order against her abuser, describing how abuse can continue through legal systems long after physical violence ends.

“Even when the abuse is no longer physical, survivors can still experience emotional abuse, financial abuse, and the exhaustion of constantly navigating the legal system,” Rubio said.

The gala also featured survivor testimony and remarks from legal advocates working directly with clients navigating housing instability, restraining orders, immigration challenges, and family court proceedings.

That conversation felt especially urgent as speakers connected attacks on reproductive freedom, immigrant rights, and transgender dignity to broader political efforts rooted in exclusion, fear, and control.

While much of the evening centered on difficult realities, speakers also emphasized solidarity, coalition-building, and hope as necessary forms of resistance.

Nearly a decade after #MeToo reshaped public conversations around abuse and accountability, the evening made clear that many survivors are still fighting for something more basic: the ability to live safely, to be believed, and to move through the world with dignity.

“Hope is a practice,” Milano said. On Thursday night in Hollywood, that practice looked like survivors, lawmakers, and advocates refusing to stop demanding more from the systems that have too often failed them.

Watch the full interview with Alyssa Milano here.
Watch the full interview with State Senator Susan Rubio here.

Rose Montoya (she/they) is a trans Latina advocate, educator, and creator with over a decade of experience advancing trans-inclusive policy, shifting public perception, and building community power. 

Some people move to West Hollywood and find themselves. Others, like Marco Colantonio, seem to arrive already equipped with their own blueprint for the place and promptly get to work. From founding the hyperlocal media outlet, Weho Times, that would rather proudly snatch the mic than whisper in the margins to building a real estate career grounded in something far more human than square footage and cookie-scented open houses, Colantonio has always worked with intention and heart. And he does this all with a fresh-pressed suit and smile from sea to shining sea.

In our conversation, Colantonio traces a path that’s anything but ordinary. From hospitality entrepreneur to caregiver, from being outed in a cheeky headline to becoming a voice for others who deserved to be heard on their own terms. Along the way, WeHo transforms from backdrop to wingman, a place where personal truth, storytelling, and a well-timed leap of faith all meet up for vodka sodas at Micky’s happy hour. The result is a perspective shaped not just by his accomplishments and accolades but by who he has chosen to be, and the communities he’s helped make just that much more seen and a lot more livable. The house is open.

What first drew you to West Hollywood, and more importantly, what kept you there?

My journey to West Hollywood wasn’t linear—it was deeply personal. I was working in hospitality on the East Coast and eventually developed a small global restaurant company, with Denver becoming our home base. Around that time, my father moved there, and shortly after, he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I stepped away from a high-profile career to care for him.

When my father passed, something shifted in me. I was tired of looking in the mirror every morning and pretending to be someone I wasn’t, instead of embracing my true self. That was the moment I came out—fully and honestly—and it changed the course of my life. Around that same time, I was “outed” in The Denver Post—and I say that a bit tongue-in-cheek. I was already a recognizable figure in the community, and a friend of mine happened to be the gossip columnist. The headline read something like, “Well-known restaurateur and man about town comes out of the pantry.” It was very Denver… and very of its time. But storytelling and community had always been part of who I am. I even started a gay nightlife blog with a friend called GAY5280.com—which was a lot of fun, though definitely not paying the bills.

After that chapter, I made the decision to move to West Hollywood and start over—completely. I was 40 years old, and WeHo gave me something I didn’t fully realize I was searching for: a place where I could be fully seen, supported, and safe. It was a dream—a queer, tolerant, vibrant community where you could truly begin again.

What kept me there was something even more profound. Early in my real estate career, I was managing a building on Harper Avenue when a young lesbian couple applied for an apartment. They didn’t meet the landlord’s financial criteria—on paper, they didn’t qualify. But they were both working two jobs, determined, and I asked them why this apartment—why West Hollywood?

Their answer has stayed with me forever. They said, “We just want to live in a neighborhood where we can walk down the street holding hands and feel safe—without being judged or harassed.”

I advocated for them, and the landlord approved their application. They became incredible tenants—but more importantly, that moment defined my purpose. That’s what West Hollywood meant to me—and still does.A place where anyone—any two people—can walk down the street holding hands and feel safe. That’s not just a neighborhood. That’s a promise.

And it’s one I’ve carried with me ever since—so I guess, in a way, I did get the key to the city.

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Take us back to the early days of WeHo Times… What was the original vision behind it, and what space were you trying to fill in the community with its creation?

West Hollywood embraced me in a way that was transformative. I became close with a Human Services Commissioner—my dear friend, Steven Davis—who encouraged me to apply for a Board for Commission seat. I was ultimately appointed, unanimously, to the Disabilities Advisory Board by the City Council. Sitting across from each councilmember during that process, I was struck by their passion and commitment. It inspired me.

At the same time, I formed friendships with some of the most respected voices in LGBTQ journalism—Paulo Murillo, Karen Ocamb, Tom Senzee, Dana Miller, and James Mills. Their passion for truth, accountability, and community storytelling left a lasting impression on me.

When WeHo News disappeared and WeHoVille emerged as a dominant platform, I became a contributor—but I often felt there wasn’t room for diverse perspectives. West Hollywood may be small in footprint, but it has a global impact. I believed it was too important to have a single voice shaping the narrative.

So late in 2016, I launched WeHo Times. It started light—community features, nightlife, culture—but very early on, everything changed. We broke what became one of the most significant stories in the city’s history: “Sex, Politics, Meth and Death in West Hollywood.” It was the story of Gemmel Moore, who died of a methamphetamine overdose in the home of a powerful political donor.

That story changed my life. It gave a voice to someone who no longer had one and helped spark an investigation that ultimately led to justice. When Ed Buck was finally convicted, Gemmel’s mother, LaTisha Nixon, reached out to me with a message I will never forget—thanking me for listening, for believing her, and for having the courage to publish when others would not.

That remains the single most meaningful accomplishment of my life.

WeHo Times became more than a publication—it became a platform for accountability, truth, and community voice. From there, I was fortunate to see the publication evolve in extraordinary ways. I credit Paulo Murillo, who took over the fledgling platform as Editor-in-Chief and Publisher. With his talent as both a writer and photojournalist, along with his unwavering passion and commitment, he transformed WeHo Times into the #1 online source for news, culture, and entertainment in West Hollywood. I’m grateful to continue contributing today through my real estate column and to remain part of a platform that continues to inform, engage, and serve the community.

How would you describe the energy of West Hollywood during that era in contrast to today? What role did community-driven journalism play in sculpting queer identity and visibility in WeHo during this?

That era was electric! West Hollywood was nearing the end of its 20s as a city and about to enter its third decade, and many of the pioneers who fought for cityhood were still deeply engaged. Activism wasn’t just present—it was amplified. People believed their voices mattered, and they acted on it. You saw it in everything—from John D’Amico’s rise to City Council, to grassroots movements like Save Tara, to Stephanie Harker’s fight to preserve Plummer Park. These weren’t symbolic efforts—they created real change.

Community-driven journalism played a critical role in that environment. It informed, challenged, and amplified voices that might otherwise have been overlooked. It helped shape identity, visibility, and civic engagement within the LGBTQ community. There was a sense that every issue mattered—and that you could make a difference. And people did.

Do you feel some things have been lost while others have been gained regarding how LGBTQ+ narratives are shared? Then vs now?

Be careful what you wish for. We’ve gained visibility, representation, and broader acceptance—and that’s something to be grateful for. But there has also been a shift. The urban village feeling that once defined West Hollywood has, in many ways, disappeared as the city has evolved.

That said, I remain hopeful. West Hollywood is still a beacon for the LGBTQ community—especially for younger generations discovering their voice. My hope is that new voices continue to emerge, stay engaged, stay loud, and remain connected to the core values that built this city: tolerance, acceptance, hope, and community.

Growth is inevitable—but engagement is a choice. And I believe the future depends on a community that continues to care, participate, and hold leadership accountable. West Hollywood should never simply blend into Los Angeles—it should always stand apart.

WeHo has long been seen as the queer cultural hub of the West Coast. When did you first start taking notice of a shift toward Palm Springs?

I’ve been coming out to Palm Springs for about 20 years, but around seven years ago—just before the pandemic—I started to notice a real renaissance. The city was getting its swagger back. The energy was shifting. The crowd was getting younger, the social scene more dynamic, and there was a renewed focus on hospitality and experience.

Then the pandemic accelerated everything. Angelenos and WeHo residents needed an escape—a place that felt open, sun-filled, and livable just a couple of hours away. Palm Springs offered that in a way no other place could. And it hasn’t slowed down since.

To me, Palm Springs is the gayest city there is. It’s evolved into something incredibly special—a sister city to West Hollywood, but with its own rhythm, its own identity, and a lifestyle that feels both elevated and effortless.

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You’ve described Palm Springs as something of a “next chapter.” In your opinion, what about this gay oasis is so appealing to the queer community today?

Everything! Palm Springs is truly a happy place. Years ago, someone said something to me at a bar on Arenas that always stayed with me: “If you ever move here, leave the baggage behind—no one wants to hear it.” And there’s truth in that. There’s a lightness here—a reset.

The city celebrates community in a very intentional way. The Pride flag flies high year-round. Modernism Week feels like a season that never ends. There are still clothing-optional resorts, a sense of freedom, and a culture that embraces individuality. Palm Springs doesn’t just welcome you—it lets you be.

Do you think Palm Springs has become LA 2.0 or is it something entirely independent in character and vibe?

Palm Springs is its own world—completely independent in character and spirit. West Hollywood is dense, urban, and immediate. Palm Springs is space, light, and ease. It’s not LA 2.0—it’s something entirely its own. And that’s exactly why people are drawn to it.

How has your background in media influenced the way you approach real estate today?

Journalism taught me that knowledge is power—and more importantly, that integrity matters.

At the end of the day, this isn’t just about transactions—it’s about impact. It’s an honor and a privilege to help people navigate one of the most meaningful decisions of their lives and guide them toward their next chapter. 

What are queer buyers today looking for that might differ from previous generations?

Marriage equality changed everything. Before that, queer buyers had to navigate very real concerns around legal protections, ownership rights, and recognition—especially when purchasing property as a couple. Those uncertainties absolutely influenced how, and even if, people chose to buy. Today, that’s no longer the barrier it once was.

What I see now is a shift in mindset. Queer buyers are approaching homeownership with a level of confidence and long-term vision that simply wasn’t as accessible before. They’re building wealth, putting down roots, and making decisions as couples and families with the same sense of security as anyone else.

In a place like Palm Springs, that also translates into lifestyle. Buyers aren’t just looking for a place where they feel safe—they’re looking for a home that reflects who they are, how they live, and the community they want to be part of. It’s no longer just about protection—it’s about possibility.

You’ve witnessed both the nightlife-driven era of WeHo and the more lifestyle-oriented culture of Palm Springs. Do these two worlds intersect?

Absolutely. In many ways, they’re part of the same journey. West Hollywood has always been electric—it’s vibrant, alive, and full of energy. Palm Springs is a different kind of magic—more grounded, more effortless, but no less vibrant.

It really is a tale of two queer cities. One celebrates where you are. The other embraces where you’re going.

And understanding that journey is what allows me to guide my clients—not just to a home, but to the life they’re stepping into next.

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Michael,

I’m 34, and after being on the dating scene for about 12 years, I’m coming to the conclusion that I don’t want to be in a relationship. 

I don’t love hanging out with the same person over and over again. I don’t feel all gooey when I’ve been with someone for a while. I run out of things to say, and also, it just gets boring.

I like my space. I don’t like having to share the bathroom or have someone next to me all night, especially when they want to go to sleep holding me. I know that sounds like heaven to a lot of people but it just feels intrusive to me. 

It’s a pain to have to compromise what I want to do. When I want to go someplace on vacation, or try a restaurant, or get up early to go to the gym, or sleep in, I don’t want to have to run that by someone else and get their OK. Life’s short. I want to do what I want to do.

I feel like we are constantly bombarded with the message to date and find a mate, but I don’t really see the point.  I don’t think I’m an introvert—I have a lot of friends—but I also like to spend time by myself and not be accountable to anyone.

When I think about marriage, it seems like a very old-fashioned concept, developed for straight people who want to have children. Historically you needed one person to work and another one to stay home and raise the kids. And you needed to stay together to give your kids two parents and a stable home. I get that.

But if I’m not having kids, what’s the point? I don’t need a husband to have sex. I can and do hook up all the time. It’s so easy to find someone online. And I get to have a lot more variety when I’m single than when I’m dating. Even though my relationships are always open, when I am dating someone, I always hook up a lot less, because I have to worry about the boyfriend’s feelings being hurt if I hook up “too much.”

I know I sound unromantic and maybe selfish but this is how I see it.  

My friends are all about having a boyfriend. They think I’m being ridiculous. Can I get another opinion?

Michael replies:

You make great points. Relationships do require us to give up some of our independence. They can feel stifling at times. And when the excitement of a new partner fades, things will at times feel “boring” in all sorts of ways, including sex. You can choose to avoid all of this by remaining single.

But relationships also give us tremendous overlapping opportunities to grow, including:

Being pushed to develop a clear sense of self: When we must constantly decide what we are willing to do or not do as part of a couple; and when our partner inevitably and frequently has interests, values, and priorities that conflict with ours, then we are challenged, over and over, to decide what is most important to us and how we want to live our lives.

Frequent opportunities to build resilience: All those old issues from our past that get us upset or riled up? We have to work through them so that we can stay (pretty) calm rather than losing our minds when our buttons are pressed.  

Improving our ability to have hard conversations – and without rancor: Unless we’re able to disagree, speak up, or confront when it’s important to do so, we are going to twist ourselves into a pretzel striving to accommodate the other person. And being able to engage in tough talks in a loving way is necessary if we want to have a loving relationship.

Becoming a more generous person: You wrote that you like to have things your way. But part of life, whether or not we are partnered, involves being thoughtful, considerate, and willing to put someone else first at times. Great relationships require us to do all of these things regularly—and many of us find that contributing to the happiness of someone we care about can increase our own happiness.

Besides these ongoing challenges, relationships give us the experience of someone knowing us deeply, and knowing someone deeply.  There can be great comfort in going through life with someone with whom we have this intimate connection, along with ongoing shared experiences of trust, support, comfort, and love. Long-term companionship is also an adventure: Can we keep the relationship vibrant and fun as we both keep changing over time? 

If you choose to remain single: Many people play their friendships on the easy setting, keeping things pleasant, on-the-surface, and non-confrontational; and cutting people off when things aren’t going well. Hanging in there to deal with the rough stuff can lead to deeper, longer friendships, and plenty of personal growth.

I do have a question for you: I am curious what sort of relationships you saw growing up, and what your own relationship experiences have been.  

Intimate relationships aren’t for everyone, and you get to decide what is right for you. But if your negative view of relationships is influenced by having witnessed or experienced intrusive or just plain awful relationships, maybe you want to do some work (therapy, for example) to heal from this stuff, rather than letting your past limit your future. A healthy relationship means being part of a couple while also remaining a vibrant individual, not being stifled, bored, and losing your independence.  

(Michael Radkowsky, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist who works with couples and individuals in D.C., Maryland, Virginia, and New York. He can be found online at michaelradkowsky.com. All identifying information has been changed for reasons of confidentiality. Have a question? Send it to [email protected].)

Now, more than ever, it is imperative that the queer media continues to have a voice, continues to be a resource to the queer community, and continues to report the news as it relates to our lives, both on a local and national level.

As we celebrate our 9^th year in publication, the Los Angeles Blade continues to be the leading political and social resource for SoCal’s queer community. Between print and our digital presence, our team of writers, and our relationships with power partners and other minority groups in the community, we continue to represent the diversity within our local queer community. Under the Blade umbrella, we are the only queer publication that is allowed in the White House briefing room. Most recently, the Los Angeles Blade was awarded the Hero Impact Award by the Stonewall Young Democrats and the Excellence in LGBTQ Reporting Newsroom Award by the Los Angeles NLGJA: The Association of LGBTQ+ Journalists.

WE NEED YOUR HELP now more than ever. Queer media has been hit hard this year. Along with the anti-LGBTQ sentiment coming from our current administration, the industry is victim to sponsorship and advertising cutbacks.

We need to hit this mid-term election head-on. We need your support to grow our reporting team to ensure we have the resources to do our research, have a presence in the field, and share the news as it happens. We also need to grow our digital space. The way our community consumes the news is changing, and we need to ensure our news is out there, on all platforms. Our next quarter plan is to debut the first-ever Los Angeles Blade podcast so that our news is not only at a local level, but a national one.

We are embarking on $20K in 20 days. We are looking to the community to contribute to fair, balanced, and necessary news, as it happens in the White House. With your help, we will not be silenced.

Your donation is tax-deductible and directly supports the Blade Foundation, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. 

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At M Grill, a Brazilian steakhouse in Los Angeles, hospitality is not just a service – it’s a philosophy. For General Manager Ivo Cooper, that philosophy is rooted in lived experience, shaped by immigration, identity, and a belief in human connection alongside food.

As an immigrant, Cooper built his life and career from the ground up. “Coming to the U.S. at 18 and building a life from scratch shaped everything about the way I lead,” Cooper tells the Blade, “I had to grow up quickly, support myself, adapt to a new culture, and learn how to earn trust in unfamiliar environments. That gave me discipline, resilience, and a real appreciation for opportunity.”

That early mix of uncertainty and determination continues to shape Cooper’s leadership. Rather than simply managing operations, he approaches his role as a mentor, investing in others in the service industry as a way to elevate it as a whole. He tells the Blade, “I have walked that road myself, and part of what drives me now is the desire to make it a little easier for the next generation. I love sharing knowledge, experience, and perspective with people who want to grow.” At its core, his approach is about making people feel seen – whether they’re working in the restaurant or sitting down to dine.

Good hospitality is often overlooked – either assumed as a given or insufficiently examined for what sets it apart from excellence. Cooper, however, understands hospitality as an art form. His philosophy is simple, humble, and, of course, quotable: “Hospitality, at its best, makes people feel comfortable, seen, and welcome.” Making people feel comfortable and seen is deeply personal to Cooper. As an openly gay, married man, Cooper understands both the privilege of acceptance and the reality that not everyone shares it. He explains, “Being gay is not the only thing that defines me, but it is part of who I am, and I’m grateful that I’ve been surrounded by love and acceptance. I also know that is not the reality for everyone. There are still many LGBTQ+ people … who are afraid to fully be themselves…”

His personal life reflects the same layered identity. His husband, also an immigrant, brings another dimension to Cooper’s experience. “[My husband] is a Canadian from Pakistan and comes from a Muslim family, so our life together reflects a lot of the complexity many people are feeling right now,” Cooper tells the Blade, also explaining that “The majority of our team are immigrants as well, and I want them to know they are valued not only for the work they do, but for who they are.” Whether it’s Cooper himself, his family, or those he works with, there is a clear sense of belonging that defines his approach.

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Cooper’s philosophy has even reached a national audience. In a recent feature with the Try Guys – one of the most widely watched food and culture platforms online, founded by former BuzzFeed creators – M Grill was highlighted not only for its food, but for its approach to hospitality. During the episode, the group notices something unusual: the salad bar has no labels. Naturally, they ask Cooper why, to which Cooper responds: “That choice reflects a much bigger philosophy for us. By not relying on labels, we create an opening for conversation. Guests ask questions, our team guides them, and the experience becomes more personal.” For Cooper, hospitality is not about minimizing friction, but about creating intentional moments of interaction.

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For Cooper, all of this is what he defines as “intentional hospitality” – a philosophy that demands consistency and care at every level. “To me, intentional hospitality means excellence is not accidental. It has to be built into every part of the experience,” Cooper says. M Grill is exactly that space for Cooper’s intentional hospitality to take way, with excellence, and detail. Each day, Cooper pays attention to the minute details that shape how customers feel: everything from pacing to language is taken into account. 

In an increasingly automated world, Cooper believes those interactions matter more than ever. He explains, “Human interaction matters even more now because so much of life is becoming automated and screen-based.” Although AI is seemingly replacing all facets of life, what Cooper finds integral to food service is human interaction: “In hospitality, that human element is everything.”

Even as the hospitality industry faces ongoing challenges – from the pandemic to rising costs and the emergence of AI – Cooper remains focused on what matters most: the guest experience. Rather than succumbing to apathy, he tells the Blade, “The last few years have made me even more focused on what actually matters.” And, for Cooper, what truly matters is the people walking through the door.

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Ultimately, Cooper’s message is one of belonging. “I would tell [young LGBTQ+ professionals and immigrants] that they belong, even if the world around them sometimes makes them question that.” 

He leaves the readers with an important, final remark: “If there is a young LGBTQ+ person reading this who feels uncertain, isolated, or afraid of not being accepted, I hope they know there is space for them … They can build a meaningful life, a successful career, and a real sense of belonging without hiding who they are.”

As a teenager, one of the first cars I drove — and fell in love with — was our family’s hulking full-size wagon. It stretched over 19 feet in length and weighed a whopping 5,300 pounds. That’s three feet longer and 1,000 heavier than, say, a Ford Explorer today. 

But this Leviathan felt safe and practical, especially when tootling around town with my crew or traveling solo cross-country. Of course, this hauler was also an eco-disaster. 

Luckily, that’s not the case today. And even though the number of traditional station wagons keeps shrinking, automakers are still offering a few gems.    

VOLVO V60 CROSS COUNTRY

$54,000

MPG: 23 city/31 highway

0 to 60 mph: 6.6 seconds

Cargo space: 51 cu. ft. (rear seats folded)

PROS: Elegant design. Composed handling. Top safety features.

CONS: So-so power. Modest rear legroom. Only two trim levels.    

The 2026 Volvo V60 Cross Country doesn’t cry for attention — and that’s the point. This is the automotive equivalent of Kristen Stewart, a celebrity who’s confident in her own skin and sees no need to post about it. 

Under the hood, there’s a four-cylinder turbo engine paired with a mild-hybrid system, producing 247 horsepower. You won’t outrun other drivers, but there is a sense of calm authority when accelerating. The standard all-wheel drive and 8.1 inches of ground clearance mean this wagon is ready for dirt roads, bad weather or a spontaneous weekend jaunt. 

And inside? Scandinavian minimalism at its finest. Clean lines. Gorgeous materials. Google-based infotainment that mostly works — though occasionally the system could be a bit faster, at least for my taste. The ride is smooth, composed and quiet, even if acceleration feels more “measured sip” than “espresso shot.” 

But here’s the twist: After more than a decade, this is the final Volvo wagon in the U.S. Its farewell tour ends in 2026. That alone gives it collector-car status.

MERCEDES-AMG E53 WAGON

$95,000

MPG: 21 city/25 highway

0 to 60 mph: 3.4 seconds

Cargo space: 64.6 cu. ft. (rear seats folded)

PROS: Supercar vibe. Hybrid versatility. Stunning interior.

CONS: Some fussy controls. Can feel heavy when cornering.    

If the Volvo V60 Cross Country is subtle, the 2026 Mercedes-AMG E53 Wagon is a screamer. It’s like being at a Lil Nas X concert: flashy, high energy, and full of shock and awe.  

This performance wagon — a plug-in hybrid, no less — pushes well over 500 horsepower (and in some configurations over 600 horsepower), launching from 0 to 60 mph as fast as a $300,000 Aston Martin supercar.

Yes, deep down, this is still a wagon. But you also can do a Costco run in something that could embarrass sports cars at a stoplight. That duality is delicious.

Inside, Mercedes leans all the way in. The high-tech Superscreen setup stretches across the dash. Ambient lighting glows like a curated art installation. The 4D surround-sound audio literally pulses through the seats. It’s immersive. Borderline excessive. And entirely the point.

Rear-axle steering helps mask the size of this car, but there’s no hiding the weight — it’s a big, powerful machine. Still, this hauler handles far better than physics suggests it should.

PORSCHE TAYCAN CROSS TURISMO

$121,000

Range: 265 miles

0 to 60 mph: 2.8 seconds

Cargo space: 41 cu. ft. (rear seats folded)

PROS: Lightning fast. Space-age design. EV smoothness.

CONS: Very pricey. Options add up quickly. Limited rear visibility.    

The Porsche Taycan Cross Turismo completely rewrites the wagon formula. Fully electric. Shockingly fast. Designed like it belongs in the Louvre.

Performance is instant. Depending on trim level, you’re looking at 0-to-60 mph in less than 3 seconds. No exuberant engine noise — just that smooth, purring EV surge.

Handling? Pure Porsche. Low center of gravity thanks to the battery-pack placement. Precision that makes winding roads feel like choreography. And then — hello — there’s also a Gravel Mode for light off-road use.

Inside, the style is restrained but high-tech. Digital displays dominate, including a 10.3-inch passenger side touchscreen. Yet the layout feels intentional rather than overwhelming. Build quality is exceptional. Options, including leather-free materials and an active-leveling system for hard cornering, are endless — and expensive.

Range varies by model. But as with any EV, your lifestyle (and charging access) matters. 

Overall, this is a wagon that looks and behaves like one helluva class act.

Let’s start with a number that should light a fire under all of us: LGBTQ+ Americans own homes at a rate of 51% — compared to 71% for their straight, cisgender counterparts. That 20-point gap isn’t just a statistic. It represents generational wealth not yet built, neighborhoods not yet claimed, and futures not yet rooted.

Spring 2026 is a moment to change that.

The Spring Market — and Why It Matters

Historically, spring is the most active real estate season of the year. Inventory rises. Buyers re-engage. Energy returns to the market. And Los Angeles, as always, operates with its own intensity.

Yes, the backdrop is complicated. Rising interest rates, an unsettled political climate, a war abroad, and oil prices rattling economic confidence —the news is loud!  A lot of people are sitting on their hands, waiting for clarity that may not come on any predictable schedule.

And yet: the Los Angeles market is still moving. As of spring 2026, the LA median home price sits at $1.1 million, up 7.1% year over year, and well-priced homes are still attracting serious buyers. If that number feels out of reach — it’s the median, not the entry point. Condos, townhomes, and emerging neighborhoods offer real footholds into ownership well below that figure, and with the right programs and team behind you, the door is more open than the headline suggests. Los Angeles is one of the most insulated real estate markets in the country. The concentration of wealth, industry, and sustained demand here creates a floor that most markets simply don’t have. We’ve weathered recessions, corrections, and uncertainty before — and the market has always found its footing.

Stop Trying to Time the Market

Warren Buffett famously said: “Be fearful when others are greedy, and greedy when others are fearful.” Right now, a lot of people are fearful. Which means, for the prepared buyer, this moment deserves serious attention.

Here’s the advice I give every client, regardless of orientation, identity, income, or background: the best time to buy is when you are ready. Not when rates drop. Not when the headlines soften.

Ready means three things:

• You have your reserves — down payment, cash to close, and a cushion beyond that
• The monthly payment genuinely works for your life — not just technically on paper, but sustainably
• You’re planning to stay 3–5 years or longer — because time in the market is what builds wealth

If all three are true? You’re ready. The season is secondary. The moment is now.

For Sellers: Your Equity Is Speaking — Are You Listening?

For LGBTQ+ homeowners in LA, this market may be quietly telling you something important. The equity you’ve built could be the key to your next chapter — trading up to a larger home, relocating to a neighborhood that better reflects who you are, or leveraging that equity to purchase a second property and step into being a landlord.

That last option deserves a real conversation: being a landlord in Los Angeles is not simple. Rent control, tenant protections, and local regulations mean the numbers need to work before you commit. A good real estate advisor will walk you through the full picture honestly — the upside and the fine print.

For Buyers: You Have More Help Than You Know

First-time buyer? The path to homeownership in LA is more accessible than most people realize — it just requires the right team and the right information.

A combination of programs through NHS, Greenline, and City National Bank can stack to $85,000 in grants toward your down payment and closing costs. Many buyers never learn that these programs exist simply because no one told them.

Beyond that: buying a home is a team sport. Your real estate advisor, lender, title officer, escrow officer, and home inspector all matter. Every member plays a role in getting you across the finish line. The right agent doesn’t just find you a home — they build and quarterback that team for you, from first conversation to keys in hand.

Homeownership in Los Angeles is not impossible. It takes planning and a strategy built around where you are today. But that path exists — and it can be built for you, specifically.

See You at WeHo Pride

We’ll be at WeHo Pride this year — come find us. We’ll have a full homebuying guide, on-the-spot consultations, and zero judgment. Just real talk about what’s possible for you in this market.

This community has always known how to claim space, make noise, and show up unapologetically. It’s time to put your name on a deed.

Your most powerful act of Pride? Owning the place you call home.

By Jed Inductivo  |  Real Estate Advisor, Compass  |  JED.i Los Angeles

Large SUVs are fine for long-distance travel. But in the city? Not so much.

That’s where subcompacts come in. They fit anywhere. Yet they often remind me of sensible shoes: practical, dependable and kinda dull. 

Now, though, more and more small crossovers are starting to channel their inner Christian Louboutin. Stylish. Sassy. And with some swagger to make things interesting.

CHEVROLET TRAX

$22,000

MPG: 28 city/32 highway

0 to 60 mph: 9.1 seconds

Cargo space: 54.1 cu. ft.

PROS: Affordable. Updated. Roomier than expected.

CONS: So-so acceleration. No all-wheel drive. Some road noise.

The Chevrolet Trax has undergone a stunning redo. Longer. Lower. Sharper. And more muscular — especially in sporty trims like the RS, which adds darker accents and a bit of attitude.

It’s like watching an understudy get a breakout moment. 

Under the hood sits a three-cylinder turbo. No, that’s not NASCAR material, but it’s perfectly adequate for daily life. Around town, the Trax felt light, easy to maneuver and surprisingly smooth. While I wasn’t going to be chasing lap times like Brad Pitt in “F1,” this pint-sized SUV kept up with traffic comfortably.

Another plus: Chevy re-tuned the suspension. Rough pavement softens. Long drives are relaxed.

Inside, the dashboard is more upscale than the price tag suggests. A large infotainment display dominates the center stack, and wireless smartphone connectivity is standard. Rear passenger room is generous thanks to the longer wheelbase, and cargo space is decent. 

Inexpensive, yes. And now stylish enough to earn an ovation.

MAZDA CX-30

$26,000

MPG: 24 city/31 highway

0 to 60 mph: 8.0 seconds

Cargo space: 45.2 cu. ft.

PROS: Sexy exterior. Chic cabin. Sporty handling.

CONS: Limited rear visibility. Smallish cargo area.    

Mazda has mastered the art of making affordable cars feel expensive, and the CX-30 might be its best performance yet. Sculpted curves. Dramatic fenders. Rich paint colors that shimmer under sunlight. Park this crossover next to competitors and it looks like it wandered in from a more upscale showroom.

The base four-cylinder engine is lively enough. But the real fun starts with the optional turbo. Press the throttle and the CX-30 surges forward with gusto, whipping you from 0 to 60 mph in as little as 5.9 seconds. Suddenly, merging onto the highway feels less like commuting and more like making an entrance worthy of Lady Gaga.

Handling also shines, with sharp steering, minimal body roll and controlled cornering. To me, the CX-30 is one of the few small rides that genuinely rewards enthusiastic driving.

Inside, the cabin feels premium. Soft-touch materials, elegant stitching and a minimalist dashboard create a refined atmosphere. 

There are tradeoffs. Backseat legroom is tighter than some rivals, and outward visibility can feel limited due to the thick roof pillars.

But if you enjoy driving — really enjoy it — the CX-30 stands apart. 

VOLVO XC40

$40,000

MPG: 23 city/30 highway

0 to 60 mph: 8.1 seconds

Cargo space: 57.5 cu. ft.

PROS: Euro styling. High-quality materials. Top safety gear.

CONS: Bit jarring over potholes. Average fuel economy. 

For a more sophisticated look, there’s the Volvo XC40. Crisp lines. Upright stance. Signature “Thor’s hammer” LED headlights that give the front-end an unmistakable presence.

Under the hood, the XC40 pairs a four-cylinder turbo with standard all-wheel drive. While the XC 40 won’t outrun a true sports car, it moves with purpose. Think quiet confidence — like Jodie Foster in practically all her movies. 

The ride balances comfort and composure nicely. Firm enough for zigzagging through congested traffic, but smooth enough to endure long highway drives.

Inside, the cabin is modern, airy and beautifully assembled. Volvo uses soft textiles, brushed metal and minimalist trim pieces to create an upscale aura. The vertically oriented touchscreen integrates Google apps, like Maps and Assistant. Once you get used to it, the system feels intuitive and tech-forward.

Volvo also excels at clever practicality. Door pockets are enormous. There’s even a removable trash bin in the center console.

While the XC40 may cost more than its mainstream rivals, it offers something they can’t quite replicate. Effortless cool.