As the founder of Build Momentum, Michael Meo has made it his unwavering mission to assist ambitious and often overlooked founders in turning their ideas into ventures. With an appropriate focus on our LGBTQ+ community as well as women and folks later in their careers, Build Momentum works to build connections and support that can help them in transforming inspiration into action. Through his work, Meo has proven himself to be a passionate advocate, ensuring that founders of marginalized communities do not have to venture out on their own.

Drawing from his own experience as a gay entrepreneur, Meo sees queerness not as a barrier but as a genuine source of creativity and resilience. From creating spaces like QueerTechIRL to his mentorship for burgeoning founders, Meo is helping to cultivate a more connected and inclusive startup landscape in LA. We had the opportunity to sit with Meo and discuss the inspiration behind Build Momentum, the unquestionably unique power that queer founders hold, the undeniable challenges they continue to face, and why he believes that the next generation of LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs has so much to build and that much more to be excited about.

For readers who may not be familiar with Build Momentum, what inspired you to create it, and what issue were you looking to address with Build Momentum?

I’m passionate about venture because it’s world-making. It’s about creating better futures that don’t yet exist by bringing together the right talent, capital, and ideas to build something unexpected.

I’ve spent the past 10 years working in startups, with a real passion for both venture and social impact. Build Momentum partners with some of the brightest founders out there—people with deep expertise who are closely connected to a pressing problem and want to solve it through technology. They bring their domain expertise, and we bring the venture-building muscle: the ability to build companies, digital products, and technology from scratch.

A lot of our work is with what I call unexpected and underrepresented founders: LGBTQ+ founders, women founders, and later-career founders coming out of established industries. Ultimately, the issue we’re trying to address is creating more inroads into venture and helping more people discover and unlock their inner founder.

Looking back at your journey with Build Momentum, have there been any stand-out moments or stories that capture the reason why you do this work?

One standout story is Christina Karaba, a founder I’ve been working with over the past year. She’s an absolutely brilliant, seasoned creative leader who came from the corporate world. I met her when she had just the idea for a company, and one of my proudest moments was when she told me that I was the first person she had ever called herself a founder to. I’ve been able to support her through that journey, and now she’s moved beyond corporate and is about to launch her AI fashion app. And she is an Expert in Residence within Build Momentum supporting other founders on their journey.

More broadly, I’ve somehow put myself in a position where people come up to me—sometimes multiple times a day—and tell me their wildest dreams, what they’re trying to build, and the challenges they’re facing. I do everything I can to point them in the right direction, connect them with the right people, and get them the resources they need. Christina’s story is a perfect example of why I do this work.

Much of your work focuses on bringing founders, investors, and startup leaders together. How does Build Momentum help create these connections that entrepreneurs may struggle to find on their own?

Nobody should build alone. Being an entrepreneur, especially a solopreneur, can be an incredibly isolating experience. We’ve done a lot of work to create community spaces for founders through events, workshops, panels, and dinners, including programming during Tech Week in New York, San Francisco, and Los Angeles.

We focus on gatherings that are genuinely valuable, bringing together some of the best startup and corporate leaders, investors, and builders and putting them in the room with early-stage founders. We want to create warm inroads into venture capital and connect entrepreneurs with people they might otherwise struggle to reach.

We also host people in our studio and mentor founders regularly. We have a street-level office with a real open-door policy. It’s not uncommon for a founder or friend of the studio to walk by, knock on the window, and come in. We’ve also launched QueerTech IRL specifically to bring LGBTQ+ founders and investors together and create a kind of home away from home for queer entrepreneurs.

What makes the Los Angeles startup community unique compared to other major innovation hubs?

What I absolutely love about Los Angeles is, first, the diversity of its people and industries. New York is known for finance, San Francisco for AI, Miami for real estate tech. The beauty of LA is that there are so many strong, diverse industries here: AI, logistics, fashion, media, wellness, health tech. It’s not a monoculture city, so we find ourselves working across all kinds of verticals.

The other thing I love about Los Angeles is that it has this anything-is-possible, shoot-for-the-stars energy. People here are wildly aspirational and optimistic. At the same time, it can be a city where community is hard to stumble upon, so when you create intentional community, people really gravitate toward it.

LA also has this incredible creative energy that’s true to its roots: telling stories and imagining worlds that haven’t existed before. Historically, that was done through media. Now, technology gives us new ways to actually build those worlds. LA has a really deep history of world-making.

Beyond having a great idea or product, what qualities consistently stand out to you in founders who are able to build lasting companies?

The founders who build lasting companies tend to have an obsession with the problem and the user, more than with the specific idea or solution they’re building today. Solutions and ideas evolve over time. But founders who remain obsessed with the problem—who are insatiably curious and disciplined about connecting with the people they’re trying to serve, understanding them, and getting into their world—are the founders I bet on.

I also look for founders who are able to maintain a balanced life. I push back against the idea that founders have to be mercenary about the work, because that leads to burnout. I’m very bullish on founders who spend time in their communities, have interests outside the company, sleep, exercise, and take care of their health. I think of this as the 360-degree founder: someone who can treat building a company as a marathon, not a sprint.

Have you noticed any patterns or trends among today’s queer founders that give you optimism about the future of LGBTQ+ entrepreneurship in Los Angeles?

I am so bullish on LGBTQ+ founders. Queer people have this unique ability to do unprecedented things.

I think about my own journey as a gay person and a gay entrepreneur. One of the first and biggest unprecedented things I had to build was my own identity. I didn’t have LGBTQ+ role models or examples. I didn’t have anything to emulate. Understanding my true self and building my own identity was kind of my first major project.

Because of experiences like that, I think LGBTQ+ founders are uniquely equipped to push forward through uncertainty, feel comfortable with ambiguity, and handle risk. Those are our superpowers. We’re also wildly creative. We’re world-makers.

Beyond that, a lot of LGBTQ+ founders I meet live service-driven lives. They want to create an outsized impact and leave the world better than they found it. They’re building companies that, at scale, can have a genuinely positive impact on the world. There’s often a sense of responsibility driving the work.

What do you believe are the most significant obstacles that still persist for LGBTQ+ founders in LA today?

One of the biggest obstacles is cultural. The venture capital and fundraising spaces can still feel very heteronormative and male-dominated. The same is true of many of the industries queer founders are trying to disrupt. As a result, LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs may not see themselves represented or feel that they have natural inroads into those spaces.

I can identify with that from building and scaling a real estate technology company. Throughout that four-year journey, I often felt like a cultural outsider. There were times when I didn’t feel comfortable showing my full, multidimensional self and was quieter about my queerness. That changed over time, but I definitely found myself code-switching to fit in with investors and enterprise clients in the real estate industry.

Where have you seen the most progress for LGBTQ+ founders over the past few years, and what role has StartOut played in that?

LGBTQ+ founders are everywhere. We now have organizations like Gaingels, StartOut, HeyFamm, and QueerTech IRL creating more spaces, connections, and visibility for queer entrepreneurs.

I also think LGBTQ+ people have this incredible ability to network, make warm introductions, and let the rising tide lift all boats. There’s a real willingness to open doors for one another. We also have far more precedent for impactful, scaled companies built by LGBTQ+ founders, so the next generation can see that there’s a path for them.

For LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs who are hoping to build their first company, what value do you think they gain from becoming part of the StartOut community?

Having mentored within the StartOut community, I think one of the biggest benefits is access to seasoned LGBTQ+ innovators and founders who can provide support, mentorship, introductions, and connections. Building a company can be incredibly isolating, so having people around you who understand both the entrepreneurial journey and the experience of being LGBTQ+ is extremely valuable.

Community is often talked about as a business asset, but it also has a personal side. How has creating Build Momentum impacted you on a personal level?

Never before have I felt more in my flow. I’ve never felt this much purpose or impact through my work, and I have this insatiable hunger to scale that impact.

Through Build Momentum, I’ve put myself in this unique position where I get to unlock people’s creativity, fuel their dreams, and help them build their companies and products. It’s immensely rewarding. There’s something deeply satisfying about playing such an intimate and impactful role in a founder’s journey.

Where do you see the greatest opportunities for innovation emerging over the next few years?

I’m very, very bullish on the domain-expert founder. Our thesis is built around serving the unexpected founder: people coming from deep within a particular industry. Think scientists from NASA, or a VP from a major bank or media company—people with decades of experience and a deep understanding of their field.

I see a major opportunity for these people to branch out and create companies of their own, especially as uncertainty within traditional corporate environments continues to grow. I really advocate for them to consider how their expertise could become a company.

I also see an enormous opportunity within established and legacy companies. A lot of them are understandably focused on AI enablement and transforming existing processes. But I think entirely new ventures, products, experiences, and technologies will also be born from within those companies. Like domain experts, established companies possess deep knowledge, assets, and unfair advantages that make them incredible starting points for building new solutions. That’s an area where we plan to play an important role through our corporate venture-building work.

This series celebrates founders who are helping shape the Los Angeles startup community. What responsibility do successful LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs have to give back and help the next generation?

For me, the first responsibility is mentorship: sharing your insights, learnings, and support with other founders, whether that’s one-on-one or through groups, workshops, and panels. That’s an incredible way to give back.

I also think there’s real value in living loudly and proudly. Simply existing as a successful LGBTQ+ founder and being true to your identity matters. That representation is especially important for younger entrepreneurs. They need to see themselves reflected in the successful people around them and know that this path is possible for them too.

If you could offer one piece of advice to someone launching their first company in Los Angeles today, what would it be?

First, get as close as possible to the people you’re trying to serve. Have multiple conversations a day—at least 10 a week. Get into their headspace and understand how they see the world. Be unreasonably close to your users.

Second, find your tribe. Join communities, go to events, and connect with groups like QueerTech IRL, Build Momentum, and StartOut. Find peers and mentors who can support you, challenge you, and give you honest feedback. Don’t try to do it alone.

Lastly, less is more. Don’t get too precious about your product. Put imperfect things into the world, see how people respond, and learn from them.

Looking at the future, what’s next for Build Momentum?

We have a few things cooking at Build Momentum. We’re exploring the launch of a West Hollywood-based venture accelerator for founders building in health tech, wellness, media, social, and AI. We envision a physical space with desks, community activations, mentorship, workshops, and funding opportunities.

We’ve also just launched our corporate venture-building practice. We want to work with some of the most influential established companies to build entirely new ventures that can unlock growth and push them into the future.

And finally, we want to scale the impact of QueerTech IRL through more activations, community events, and opportunities for LGBTQ+ founders and investors to connect.

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For more information, head to BuildMomentum.dev.

For the past 40 years, the HIV Advocacy group has fought to provide people with the resources, support, and overall care that they need. Theirs is a beautiful mission of uplifting marginalized communities across Los Angeles — that, unfortunately, was borne out of necessity. 

When it started in 1986, Being Alive was a tool for survival, created by the many LGBTQ+ individuals who’d been abandoned by society while in the midst of the HIV/AIDS crisis. The organization’s current Executive Director, Jamie Baker, explained, “When Being Alive first started, it was sort of out of frustration and desperation. No one was doing anything, and our friends and family were waiting to die. The founders of the organization decided to take action and help people have hope to find a way through this.” 

What started as a couple of community members hosting small support groups has become one of the leading nonprofits providing wellness services for those living with HIV and AIDS. Whether it be mental health support, prevention education, or the various other services they offer today, Being Alive has become an essential resource for countless people living with HIV in LA — and on Saturday, September 12th, 2026, they’ll be celebrating four decades of hard work at the ‘40 Years of Being Alive’ celebration. 

Hosted at the Los Angeles Athletic Club, 40 Years of Being Alive is a reception and awards ceremony that will see the organization’s many supporters come together for a moment of community joy. Because along with looking back at the organization’s history and all it’s accomplished, the event is promising some fun; Broadway legends Marissa Jaret Winokur, Kerry Butler, and Laura Bell Bundy will be performing an excerpt from their hit Mama, I’m A Big Girl Now show for everyone in attendance. “I was a kid during the AIDS crisis, but I remember losing colleagues and people I knew,” recounted Butler when discussing how it feels to be a part of such a landmark celebration. “A mission of mine has been to support the LGBTQ community, and help them to know how loved they are…[so] it’s an honor to get to help celebrate this organization that has been doing such amazing work.”

And this trio won’t be the only stars in attendance. Along with notable advocates from across Los Angeles, the event will be honoring actress Morgan Fairchild, renowned therapeutic specialist Joseph Leahy, and the legendary comedian Bruce Vilanch for their work supporting people living with HIV. “Being Alive was one of the volunteer-run charities that sprang up in the first few years of the AIDS epidemic,” said Vilanch. “It’s great to know there is still hope with everything that’s going on in our country…it’s been difficult for the smaller AIDS charities to keep up, and I’m happy to be a part of that effort.”

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Every person involved with the celebration spoke about not only their excitement but also why the LGBTQ+ community needs joyful moments like this right now. Especially because groups like Being Alive are some of our most important resources right now — and, in recent years, they’ve also been the most attacked. 

“We lost a significant part of a government-funded contract,” explained Baker when describing the stark funding cuts Being Alive has continuously seen over the past two years. “These short-sighted and ill-informed attacks on LGBTQIA+ communities and people living with HIV are appalling and frightening.” This is sadly not an isolated incident; in Los Angeles alone, we’ve seen millions in funding for HIV-related resources be cut by the current administration. And these attacks are spreading worldwide, with the American government revoking historic funds meant to assist people all across the globe who are struggling with HIV and AIDS today. This has made thousands of people internationally scared for their health, and it’s left our local LGBTQ+ communities fighting to retain the services we’ve spent decades building. 

It’s this fight, Baker explains, that is at the heart of the 40 Years of Being Alive celebration. Because, yes, the event will be a fun-filled afternoon for connecting with like-minded supporters from across LA. But it will also be a valuable reminder that Being Alive, and the mission it represents, is not going anywhere. 

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 “We are celebrating 40 years of resilience and the people who fought for every service and treatment we have available today,” explained the Executive Director. “We honor those we lost, and everything we do is on the foundation built by those who came before us…those who marched, held ‘ die-ins ‘ on the Washington Mall, and those whose voices still resonate. We are still here, and our community of people with HIV has the opportunity to thrive because of those activists and pioneers. That’s the celebration.”

40 Years of Being Alive takes place on Saturday, September 12, 2026, from 2:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m.at the Los Angeles Athletic Club. You can buy your tickets here.

For LGBTQ+ folks of color in Los Angeles, community can mean much more than simply having a place to come together. It can mean finding a chosen family, discovering a creative outlet, accessing wellness resources, or simply walking through a door and knowing that you belong. REACH LA has spent years creating spaces where health, creativity, advocacy, culture, and celebration meet. At the heart of that work are the people who show up every day to teach, organize, advocate, perform, mentor, and build connections.

In this collective interview, three members of the REACH LA community – multidisciplinary artist and Ballroom icon Packrat Whitfield, advocate and community connector ChiChi Navarro, and Invisible Men founder Luckie Alexander – reflect on what brought them to REACH LA, what the organization means to their respective communities, and why intentionally creating spaces for LGBTQ+ people of color remains so important. Their stories are different, yet they share a common value: the belief that representation matters, community is a form of healing, and the future of LGBTQ+ liberation depends on people continuing to show up for one another.

Packrat Whitfield

A multidisciplinary artist whose work spans choreography, movement, artistic direction, production, dance education, DJing, Voguing, activism, and Ballroom culture, Packrat Whitfield has spent more than two decades immersed in the Ballroom community. Their relationship with REACH LA began in 2014, shortly after moving from New Jersey to Los Angeles.

“I first showed up at Reach LA in 2014 after moving from New Jersey to LA and being told about Vogue open sessions at the dance studio,” Whitfield shares. After years of attending and supporting REACH LA, they were eventually invited to join the organization professionally. Today, they teach weekly Vogue classes that are free to attendees, sharing knowledge and skills accumulated throughout their career.

For Whitfield, REACH LA’s mission is inseparable from the history of Ballroom itself. “Ballroom was created by Black and Latino LGBTQ+ individuals,” they explain, making REACH LA’s commitment to LGBTQ+ people of color especially meaningful. Having spent more than 20 years in Ballroom, Whitfield sees teaching as an opportunity to give back while helping younger generations carry the culture forward.

They have also experienced firsthand the importance of representation. As a queer Black woman participating in Ballroom, Whitfield says they rarely saw someone who reflected their identity. Rather than allowing that absence to define their experience, they decided to become the representation they wished they had.

“I really wanted to be the change I wanted to see,” they say. “I really worked hard over the years to be visible, present, and be a role model when I had none.”

That commitment extends beyond performance. Whitfield describes REACH LA as a space where creativity can become a pathway toward healing, confidence, and professional development. They have watched young people enter the organization, take classes, develop their artistry, and eventually become prominent performers within Ballroom.

“They call me the mother of Reach LA,” Whitfield says, reflecting on the many young people they have helped nurture. For them, teaching isn’t simply about technique. It’s about helping people find their voice and providing tools that can make their journey into entertainment easier.

Social justice, too, is woven into Ballroom culture. “The consistent fight for freedom is a form of social justice in its own right,” Whitfield says. Whether that means fighting for the right to occupy space, live authentically, or be recognized and respected, Ballroom has long transformed resistance into art, movement, and community.

ChiChi Navarro

ChiChi Navarro describes themselves as “a person of many multitudes,” moving between roles as a drag artist, event host, fundraiser, educator, community connector, policy advocate, and organizer. Their advocacy centers LGBTQ+, TGI, Latine, working-class, and poor communities, with an extensive network of involvement throughout Los Angeles.

Navarro’s relationship with REACH LA began through participation. “I first fell in love with REACH LA while attending some of their incredible group sessions and Vogue classes!” they recall. While Navarro jokes that attempting a dip would be “the end of me,” those early experiences opened the door to a much deeper relationship with the organization.

That relationship eventually expanded into advocacy. Navarro invited REACH LA to participate in a TransLatin@ Coalition Day of Advocacy during the fight for the TGI Wellness and Equity Initiative in Los Angeles County. With support from organizations including REACH LA, the initiative ultimately passed and became TGI RISE.

For Navarro, REACH LA’s mission reflects their own belief that liberation must center those who are most marginalized. “True liberation happens when we intentionally empower the most marginalized among us,” they say.

They also emphasize the importance of joy. Advocacy can be exhausting, and community members need spaces where they can celebrate as well as organize. REACH LA provides opportunities to recognize frontline activists, honor those who came before them, and build relationships outside the immediate pressures of political work.

Navarro’s own journey toward advocacy is deeply personal. Having experienced shame around sexuality and gender expression while growing up, they describe the process of reaching acceptance, and ultimately celebration, as requiring significant interpersonal work.

Today, Navarro proudly describes themselves as a queer and gender-expansive Mexican-American Angeleno. That journey has shaped a philosophy grounded in empathy, patience, understanding, and genuine acceptance.

When asked about the future, Navarro imagines a world where sexual orientation, gender, and gender expression are never grounds for exclusion. They envision housing, food, healthcare, and vibrant community spaces as fundamental rights rather than privileges.

Most importantly, they hope their legacy encourages radical collaboration. “It truly takes a village,” Navarro says. “We are infinitely stronger working together.” And alongside the seriousness of that vision comes a reminder not to lose joy in the struggle: “Have fun and be kind to yourself.”

Luckie Alexander

Luckie Alexander, CEO and founder of Invisible Men, has dedicated more than two decades to gender and social justice, education, workforce development, advocacy, and community organizing. His work has included leadership with the Los Angeles County HIV Commission, the Brown Boi Project, the West Hollywood Trans Advisory Board, and the historic 2019 National Trans Visibility March.

His connection with REACH LA has evolved through collaborative projects, but one particular program has brought him back into closer contact with the organization: T Boy Tuesday’s Game Nights.

“Having space created intentionally for Trans men and transmasculine individuals is what continues to bring me back,” Whitfield says.

That intentionality is central to what REACH LA represents for him. As a Black trans man, Whitfield recognizes the importance of seeing people who reflect your identity doing the work. “It is great to see folks that look like you doing similar work for the LGBTQ+ community,” he says, particularly when those spaces include demographics that are frequently left out of broader conversations.

His activism began in response to his own experiences during transition and the treatment of trans men within society. Community eventually became a place where he could see reflections of himself that he hadn’t previously known he needed.

“I was able to use my academic and life experiences to help those coming behind me to not have to experience what I did,” he explains.

That philosophy of paying it forward is central to Invisible Men’s mission and to what he sees in REACH LA. For Whitfield, the organization’s greatest contribution is creating a space where trans men can interact with one another while accessing community, support, and the broader resources that make wellness possible.

“Spaces intentionally for Trans men are very far and few between,” he says. “REACH LA provides a safe place for us to interact, with us, led by us.”

Ultimately, Whitfield hopes the work being done today helps create a future in which people no longer have to fight simply to exist. His vision is simple but profound: a world where people are seen fully as themselves and where community space is genuinely shared.

“I want my legacy to be that everyone sees everyone for the person,” he says. “In ten or twenty years I want there not to be a reason to fight so hard just to live. I hope that existence isn’t so complicated.”

Across Ballroom floors, advocacy tables, classrooms, game nights, policy meetings, and creative spaces, the stories of Packrat, ChiChi, and Luckie demonstrate why organizations like REACH LA matter. Their approaches may differ, but each sees community as something active; something built through teaching, listening, showing up, making room, and passing knowledge forward. In a world that can still make LGBTQ+ people of color fight for visibility, safety, and belonging, REACH LA offers something essential: a place where people can gather not only to survive, but to create, celebrate, heal, and imagine what comes next.

For more information, head to ReachLA.info.

Most queer people can remember the first time they saw another LGBTQ+ person.

For many, it wasn’t a very good experience; the media’s historic focus on stereotyping has led to depictions of our community as caricatures, not as people. This has luckily lessened over the years, but it can still be hard for folks today to see others with their identities living openly. Somehow — even with its many, many pitfalls — the rise of social media has addressed this issue, making it easy for LGBTQ+ users to share their lives with people all over the world. Now more than ever, it’s possible for queer folks to go online and see the real representation they need…which is why the rise in online discrimination has been so heartbreaking. 

The past few years have seen ongoing attacks against anything queer online. And while there are still many influencers sharing their authentic selves with the world, this bullying has led to many hiding themselves from others, scared that showcasing their real selves will lead to nothing but digital hatred. It’s because of this hatred that we need LGBTQ+ creators more than ever — and it’s why Micah Jesse, Head of Influencer & Creator Marketing for e.l.f Cosmetics, has committed himself to making the influencer industry as inclusive as possible today. 

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The best creators start out by simply doing what they love, and Micah is no different; the man’s career began as staff at The Box SoHo, a prolific nightclub known for its ultra-famous customer base. “When I first started, ‘influencer’ wasn’t even a word yet,” Jesse laughed, remembering his early days in the role. He described the many celebrities who walked through The Box’s doors and how, to the shock of his managers, he loved nothing more than to casually tell each how much he adored their work. He paired this confidence with the signature style (mainly bright colors and rhinestones) he still wears today, with the man’s all-around brazenness earning him the attention of Ali Puliti, editor at the historic OK! Magazine. “She saw something in [me],” he explained. “She’s told me since that I had ‘no phoniness,’ which in this industry you learn to notice when it’s missing. I asked for her card — my first assignment was interviewing Rihanna on the roof of the Empire State Building.”

From there, Micah’s life became a glamorous whirlwind; he began as a reporter, interviewing some of the country’s biggest celebrities and documenting every jaw-dropping experience in his popular blog. He was one of the first influencers to successfully translate these writings into a social media presence, developing a massive following who loved hearing his thoughts on makeup, fashion, and all things celebrity culture. 

Jesse remembered the joys and struggles of these early years fondly, recounting how, while fun, it was also immensely difficult making a name for himself in the tenuous entertainment industry. And he’s especially proud to have been one of the few people to do all of this while being openly queer…despite being told many times that it ‘wasn’t a good idea.’ 

“There was a talent manager early on who told me flat-out that America wasn’t ready for someone ‘so out,’” recounted Micah. “And that I’d be more universally liked if I dialed it back.” It’s an issue that has only gotten worse; not only do online algorithms favor more ‘traditional’ (AKA heterosexual and white) creators, but too often large brands discount partnerships with diverse influencers who don’t appease the bigoted parts of their audience. Yet despite this ‘advice,’ Micah continued to be open about his sexuality, understanding that, “Authenticity ended up being the thing that worked in my favor. Talent and their management loved speaking with me because I wasn’t performing…[my] enthusiasm wasn’t a liability. It was the whole asset.”

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It’s this authenticity that Micah cultivates in his current role: Head of Influencer & Creator Marketing for e.l.f Cosmetics. “e.l.f. had its finger on the pulse of inclusivity and culture long before I ever walked in the door — that’s exactly why I wanted to be there!” He raved, detailing how he works with multi-million-dollar marketing teams and some of today’s biggest influencers to amplify the company’s brand. 

Micah fights to spotlight creators like himself, marginalized folks who love all things makeup and fashion but are too often ignored by companies who don’t appreciate their voices. “Treating creators like cultural forces instead of vendors, and watching that philosophy actually move the business…it’s proof you don’t have to choose between doing right by people and doing right by the numbers,” he emphasized. “Because representation isn’t abstract — it’s the difference between a kid scrolling at 1 am feeling alone and that same kid seeing someone who looks or sounds like them, thriving, unbothered.”

Jesse strives to find the marginalized creators who have a passion for these products, whose distinct experiences not only make their personal styles unique but offer representation for the millions of other people who love e.l.f. today. He emphasized that, of course, he will partner with a great creator no matter their identity — but finally, he’s working to give marginalized artists an equitable chance at developing the partnerships they deserve. It’s a mission that he holds dearly every day, saying, “Culture moves through creators now more than it moves through almost anything else. When we go quiet, that space doesn’t stay empty — someone else fills it, and not always with care.”

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Since first beginning in this space, Micah Jesse has committed to being his biggest, brightest self to show his thousands of followers that they can too. He is so honored to continue this work on a global scale at e.l.f. And on what he hopes his impact — not only in this job, but in the numerous others he’s poured his heart into over the years — will be, Micah ended the interview by saying, “I want to help crush the idea that authenticity and professionalism are in tension…you don’t have to dim yourself to be taken seriously in a boardroom. And you don’t have to perform to be taken seriously online.”

In addition to the growing list of sexualities, we’re expanding how we look at our relationships. Whether you’re monogamous, open, or living in a pansexual polycule, love is love.  Daniel, Will, and Caleb, the hosts of the A Little Throuple Tea podcast, have invited the world into their unique relationship to show them the ins and outs of throuple life. 

This tell-all podcast is one part of 3Dudes1Life Creative, which also includes a romantic memoir series, Tres Amigos, Una Vida, and a budding lifestyle brand that’s destigmatizing living and loving in a threesome. 

You’ve got Will, the HBIC with the clipboard and mastermind behind creating this whole enterprise. You’ve got Caleb, the grounded, pragmatic one with a dry sense of humor. Then there’s Daniel, the creative who brings humor, creativity, and spirituality into the mix. 

The guys took some time to share their origin story and how they make it all work. They are also quick to dispel any fantastical fixations and morbid misconceptions about their romance. They’re direct, plainspoken, and most importantly grounded in a relationship they’ve built that works for them. 

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So how did you all meet? 

Will: I moved to Southern California from South Dakota in 2006 for college and met Caleb later that year before going out to Rich’s one night. He was in the Navy, and our friends set us up. We have been together ever since. 

In 2010, we met Daniel through nightlife and started a friendship. We actually tried the “throuple” thing back in 2011, but it didn’t last long. We continued our friendship after that, but in 2016, after a trip to the Dominican Republic, our second attempt at a throuple began. Since then, we have been together for over a decade, enjoying this wild ride called life. 

Caleb: I came from a small city in West Texas, Lubbock. I was 20 at the time, renting a cheap hotel in downtown, and drinking with shipmates was the usual. After seeing places like Australia, Hong Kong, Japan, Dubai, and Malaysia, I had a shipmate tell me about her friend who was single. By the time we got back to port, her single friend was no longer single, but they did introduce me to Will.

He tried to seduce me by introducing himself in just a towel, which worked. After going out that night, we started to hang out every weekend. And then soon after that, I was moving in with him, and the rest is history. 

Daniel was an avid bar goer who spent at least 6 nights a week bar hopping. Will, being the hip-hop DJ that he is, would draw Daniel and his friends to his dance floor. Soon after, they started talking on Facebook and a friendship blossomed. One night, when Will was DJing, Daniel and his friends, of course, came out to dance. I came out later that night, and when I went to go say hi to Will, he told me that Daniel was there and pointed him out on the dance floor. 

The night was mostly a blur after that from shots, drinks, Daniel backing it up on me, and ending with some greasy food. I’m pretty sure they all crashed at our place that night cause pretty much every weekend after that, Daniel and his friends were crashing at our place. 

Daniel: We all met in Hillcrest while Will was DJing back in 2010. I had always known who Will was from the local scene, but our actual introduction happened when he sent me a Facebook message offering to get me into the bar for free. That night, I met both Will and Caleb, and the rest is history. 

What do you feel is the biggest misconception about being in a throuple? 

Daniel: The biggest misconception is that a throuple is all about sex. In reality, our relationship is like any other.  We have conversations, challenges, ups and downs, quality time together, and yes, intimacy too. It’s all about balance. 

Caleb: I think that the biggest misconception is that because we are a polyamorous relationship, we are open in our relationship. Now, yes, Will and I weren’t open per-say but we did have some hot, heated times, and we always played together. I think if we didn’t have some occasional fun together, the idea of being a throuple would have been out of the question. But as soon as we became an official throuple, we closed the door and are monogamous now. 

Will: That someone must be a “homewrecker” or that the original couple must not have been happy together. It’s almost as if people think adding a third person will somehow fix a struggling relationship. For us, the evolution from friendship to partners happened naturally. Adding a third personality and dynamic to a relationship doesn’t fix problems—if anything, it requires a lot more communication, trust, and work to make it successful. 

Another misconception is that it’s just a phase. Maybe for some people it is, but for us it definitely isn’t. We’ve built a life together, and in the end, it has made all three of us better men. 

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What inspired the podcast? 

Caleb: This is a Will question, lol. After having a great success with an LGBTQ+ day at state and county fairs called “Out at the Fair”, current political views quickly turned what was a successful, family-friendly LGBTQ+ day into the “red-headed stepchild” no one wanted. 

So Will did what any CEO would do; he pivoted! He saw how popular “Out at the Fair” was, along with a few side hustles; we had an Etsy that was gaining traction, and for some reason people wanted to know who we were. So he started a blog. Then the blog very quickly became the podcast. 

Will: We have been told for years that we should record our life and share our story. Over the last year, I experienced some major changes in our business, and it gave us the opportunity to pivot in a new direction. 

Instead of dwelling on things we couldn’t control, we decided to turn that frustration and uncertainty into a creative project. That’s how the podcast was born. It became a way for us to share our experiences, our relationship, and the ups and downs of life with the world. 

When we first got together, there really weren’t many examples of long-term throuples living normal lives. We wanted people to see that our life isn’t all that different from anyone else’s. We work, pay bills, argue about dinner, take care of our dogs, and try to build a future together. 

At the end of the day, it’s really just three guys talking about life, love, chaos, and everything in between—and people seem to connect with that. 

Daniel: The inspiration mainly came from our Instagram page. We get a lot of questions about how our relationship works, where we’re from, and how we met. With the following we built on Instagram, Will had the idea of starting a podcast and sharing more of our lives through conversations on a mic and camera. The podcast gives people a chance to hear answers to their questions while also seeing our authentic personalities, how we communicate, and how much we tease each other. It’s been a lot of fun to create. 

Do you think anyone could be in a throuple, or do you feel you’re uniquely suited for each other? 

Will: I don’t think being in a throuple is for everyone, and that’s okay. We can tell by some of the reactions, facial expressions, and comments we receive that it isn’t something everyone understands or would want for themselves. 

But for the people it does work for, it can be amazing—and really, that’s all that matters. At the end of the day, every relationship is unique. Ours just happens to have three people instead of two. 

Daniel: I think anyone could be in a throuple if the connection, communication, and mutual respect are there. That said, I’ve had many people tell me they couldn’t do it because they’d be too jealous or wouldn’t want to share their partner. I understand that feeling. In my experience, jealousy often shows up when someone doesn’t feel secure, equal, or heard. Communication is what helps navigate those feelings. When everyone feels valued and understood, a throuple can be an incredibly loving and supportive relationship. 

Caleb: No, I don’t think a throuple is for everyone. They are not for the weak-hearted. And I feel like you have to be emotionally mature. I say that because, like all relationships, jealousy can play a huge role, especially when there are more than 2 people in a relationship. 

What do you think is the secret to your relationship success? 

Daniel: I call it the “triangle of support.” We’re able to balance each other and lean on one another. If a misunderstanding or disagreement happens, the third person can often provide perspective and help us better understand each other. I also think our success comes from the fact that we were friends first. We know each other deeply, understand how each person communicates, and genuinely enjoy spending time together. 

Will: Communication. I know most would say, ‘Well, duh,’ but when you add a third personality, family, career, schedule, and life into the mix, communication becomes even more important. If you aren’t talking about everything and anything, it’s easy for someone to feel left out or not included. Honestly, our group chat is ridiculous, but it’s also one of the reasons we thrive. We stay connected throughout the day, work through issues as they come up, and make sure everyone feels heard. It may sound simple, but consistent communication has been the foundation of our relationship’s success. 

Caleb: I guess really there’s nothing different than a traditional relationship. We try to make a monthly date night, we take vacations together, we give each other our space when we need it and support each other when it’s too hard to stand. And of course we try to keep it spicy in the bedroom. It is easier to spice things up when you have 2 ‘joysticks’ to play with. 

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What would you say is the most important aspect of your relationship?  

Daniel: Communication and the ability to be silly together. We joke with each other constantly, and that keeps life fun. Being able to laugh together makes even stressful situations feel a little lighter. 

Will: The most important aspect of our relationship is knowing that none of us ever has to face life alone. No matter how bad the day is or how difficult a situation becomes, there is always someone there to lean on. We call it our “triangle of support.” When one of us is struggling, the other two are there to help carry the load. At the end of the day, knowing you are loved, supported, and never alone is a pretty powerful thing. 

Caleb: Us 3 are all totally different personalities! I think that’s why we work so great together. Otherwise life would just be too boring. 

Check out their 3Dudes1Life app to access their podcast, their book, and more!

And look for more of these guys on the Los Angeles Blade. Part 2 of our interview with them, answering relationship questions, is on the way, and we will be sharing the latest episodes of their podcast right here!

Activist, author, and queer historian Dr. Lydia Otero has spent their life documenting the stories that are often left out of many historical records. In their latest book, L.A. Interchanges: A Brown & Queer Archival Memoir, Otero combines personal memory and meticulously preserved archival materials to spotlight the everyday experiences of a Brown, queer life in Los Angeles during the late 1980s. Rather than focusing solely on landmark events, Otero shares how ordinary moments, community organizing, and personal artifacts become powerful evidence of queer history.

Ahead of their August 16 lecture, 1987: Reflections on a Brown and Queer Life in Los Angeles, at One Gallery, we had the opportunity to speak with Otero about archives, activism, and the significance of preserving queer history. In the interview, Otero explores how one seemingly ordinary year reveals larger truths about identity, resilience, and the ongoing work of ensuring queer people of color remain visible in both the historical record and the future.

Your upcoming lecture is titled 1987: Reflections on a Brown and Queer Life in Los Angeles. Why did you choose to center your talk on this specific year? What made it such a pivotal moment in your journey? 

I wouldn’t call 1987 a pivotal year. In many ways, it was an ordinary year in my life. That’s precisely what interests me. Rather than trying to tell the story of my entire life, I focus on a single year, specific experiences, and what they reveal about a much larger queer history.

What surprised you most when you revisited your own memories and personal archives nearly four decades later?

What surprised me most was realizing how much I had saved. I moved multiple times while living in Los Angeles, yet somehow I always prioritized keeping calendars, flyers, photographs, and other documents. I wasn’t consciously creating an archive, but I was preserving a record of my life. Nearly four decades later, those ordinary items became invaluable in helping me reconstruct the past.

Memory can be unreliable. How did you balance your own personal recollection with archival evidence while preparing for this lecture? 

Memory is never perfect, which is why I don’t rely on memory alone. I wrote L.A. Interchanges as an archival memoir, using photographs, calendars, flyers, news clippings, and other documents to guide and verify my recollections whenever possible. It’s still my story and my perspective, but I wanted readers to see the evidence behind it. That’s why I included an archival section at the end of the book, so readers could examine many of the same materials I used to reconstruct my past.

Your work examines the intersections of race, sexuality, and place. How did Los Angeles shape your identity as both a Brown and queer person during the late 1980s? 

I always felt like I was carving out a place for myself. As a working-class electrician in the construction industry, I lived paycheck to paycheck while building a life in Los Angeles. I also had to navigate racism and exclusion within parts of the predominantly white queer community, as well as homophobia within segments of the Latine community. One of my priorities was finding and organizing with other queers of color who understood many of the same struggles. Los Angeles was large enough that, despite these challenges, it offered opportunities to build community and organize around the issues that mattered most to me.

How did broader social movements (AIDS epidemic, and growing LGBTQ+ visibility) influence your own life and work? 

They influenced my life immensely. The founding of ACT UP Los Angeles in 1987 was a game changer for the entire queer community. Although I supported and participated in some of its actions, I also recognized that Latine queers had needs that were not always being addressed. I felt a responsibility to serve my own community, particularly Spanish-speaking Latines who needed HIV/AIDS information and educational materials presented in Spanish and in culturally relevant ways. That commitment shaped much of my work during that period.

Your latest book, L.A. Interchanges: A Brown & Queer Archival Memoir, mixes memoir with historical research. What inspired you to experiment with this format? 

I wanted to center archival materials rather than treat them as illustrations. A flyer I saved or created in the 1980s may not have seemed especially important at the time, but I kept it because it meant something to me. It took the passage of time for me to realize how precious those materials had become. They don’t just document events; they document the efforts of an ordinary person who tried to make the world a little better, one small contribution at a time. To me, that’s what an activist life is really about.

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You are just as much an activist as you are a scholar, including serving as president of Gay and Lesbian Latinos Unidos and helping found Lesbianas Unidas. How has activism informed your historical writing? How has writing informed your activism? 

Over time, I have come to understand how deeply my activism informs my scholarship. My years as an activist taught me to notice whose voices were missing, whose stories were overlooked, and how systems of inequality shaped people’s lives. At the time, I did not have a college degree. When I later returned to school to study history, I acquired the tools to document those experiences and place them within a broader historical context. Looking back, I see that my activism shaped the questions I ask as a historian.

Queer history is far too often overlooked or erased, especially the stories of LGBTQ+ people of color. In what ways are recovering these histories necessary in today’s political climate? 

Recovering these histories is more important than ever. One of the enduring slogans of the queer movement is, “We’re here. We’re queer.” History reminds us that we were always here. That is especially important for LGBTQ+ people of color, who have too often been left out of both queer history and the histories of their own communities. Seeing Latine and queer lives documented in the historical record affirms that we have always existed, contributed, organized, and belonged. At a time marked by ICE raids, gentrification, and widening class divisions, preserving and sharing those histories is an act of visibility and resistance.

What responsibility do LGBTQ+ communities have in documenting our own stories? 

I think we’ve learned that much of that responsibility falls on us. That’s one reason there is such a growing emphasis on LGBTQ+ archives, community collections, and oral histories. My talk on August 16 is a product of that commitment. It reflects the growing recognition that our shared past matters, and I’m grateful that the One Institute continues to create spaces where conversations about who we were, who we are, and where we want to go can take place.

What words of wisdom would you like to dispense to aspiring queer historians? You don’t need a formal degree to appreciate history or to help make it. History is created every day through the choices we make: attending a meeting, writing a post, supporting a new idea, joining a collective, or standing up for someone else. Live your life with the future in mind. Preserve what matters, because one day today’s ordinary moments may become the history someone else needs to understand.

One Institute Presents:

The Paul D. Lerner and Stephen Reis Lectures on LGBTQ+ History

Sunday, August 16, 2 p.m.
Dr. Lydia Otero, “1987: Reflections on a Brown and Queer Life in Los Angeles”

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Karen Ocamb has had a long and distinguished career in LGBTQ+ journalism, and now she’s taking it further with the launch of her podcast, LGBTQ+ Freedom Fighters with Karen Ocamb. It’s a companion to her LGBTQ+ Freedom Fighters blog on Substack, and The Los Angeles Blade is what she calls a “friendly partner” in both ventures.

Ocamb launched the blog a year ago, knowing this year’s midterm elections would be important. She’s published a variety of news and commentary pieces on it, interviewing activists such as Lambda Legal attorney Jon Davidson, TransLatin@ Coalition founder Bamby Salcedo, AIDS Healthcare Foundation president Michael Weinstein, and seniors fighting for transparency at the San Diego LGBT Community Center.

She has also offered many takes on the misdeeds of Donald Trump and appreciations of important LGBTQ+ figures and allies who’ve left us, including Wallis Annenberg, Michael Callen, Jewel Thais-Williams, Rob Reiner, David Mixner, and Eleanor Roosevelt. The blog features interviews with midterm candidates as well, such as Angie Craig, running for U.S. Senate from Minnesota; Shevrin Jones and Elijah Manley, seeking U.S. House seats from Florida; and California State Senate candidate John Erickson. (Full disclosure: This reporter is a contributor to LGBTQ+ Freedom Fighters and did the interviews with Craig, Jones, Manley, and Erickson.) The Blade cross-posts articles from LGBTQ+ Freedom Fighters.

“I do political analysis, and I also, importantly to me, do a lot of history,” Ocamb said. “I think context is really, really important because we have such short-term memories now that we think everything is just based on what we see that’s right in front of us right now, without pulling back the lens and seeing, oh, wait a second, there’s a bigger picture here, and so I’m very happy to be able to provide history that I have seen and covered myself and things that I haven’t covered that I think are important.”

The podcast will offer similarly important and interesting content, she said. Episodes available so far include interviews with veteran activist Cleve Jones, talking about Andry Hernández Romero, the gay makeup artist wrongfully deported to a brutal prison by the Trump administration; Rayna Zemeland and Miranda Winters, the married filmmakers behind Moms Club, a documentary about the mothers standing up to anti-transgender school board members in Southern California; longtime West Hollywood politician John Duran; and Weinstein. The podcast is available on platforms, including Apple, Spotify, iHeart, and Amazon.

Ocamb took a roundabout path to becoming a journalist. “What led me to become a journalist in the first place was that I didn’t want to become a sports producer,” she said. That may sound strange, she noted, but her mother, a real estate agent in Westport, Connecticut, was friends with Brent Musburger, a prominent CBS sportscaster at the time Ocamb graduated from college in 1973. 

“Brent suggested that I start out as a sports producer and then maybe eventually become the first woman sports producer and first sideline female reporter, which you know was kind of interesting in 1973, when I graduated,” she said. “But truthfully, as much as I love sports, I just could not see me ginning up any interest in going into some male locker room and pretending I was excited to talk to these boys about whatever it was they wanted to talk about. So I politely declined.”

It turned out, however, that there was an opening on the CBS News assignment desk in New York City, and she applied and got hired. “It was amazing,” she said. “Watergate was happening. The Vietnam War was still happening. I got to clerk for Dan Rather and Walter Cronkite.” Cronkite told Ocamb he had known of her father, who was a journalist on The Kansas City Star when Cronkite was working at UPI in Kansas City before World War II. “So it was kind of fate … that I wound up there at that time and got the journalism bug, and I’ve been at it ever since,” she said.

She left CBS News in late 1983, having held jobs including desk assistant, broadcast associate, and assistant producer; but her last assignment was producing coverage of the 1984 Olympics in Los Angeles for CBS affiliates. She wanted to become a playwright, so she took an acting class with actress Salome Jens (who starred with Rock Hudson in one of his best films, Seconds) because she wanted to know what actors would do with her words. But AIDS started hitting her classmates, and after a few years of various jobs and a relationship with Annenberg, a philanthropist and closeted lesbian, Ocamb got into the fight as a journalist.

“I decided I needed to do something other than be at my friends’ bedsides when they died or take them to doctors’ visits,” she said. “I’m also in 12-step programs, so there was a lot of taking care of people …  and it seemed logical to me that the best thing for me to do is to use my skills as a journalist and apply that to our people.”

She met pioneers in the LGBTQ+ movement such as Harry Hay, Jim Kepner, Morris Kight, and Ivy Bottini. “It was kind of like being bitten by a second bug,” she said. She committed to being a fair and balanced journalist, dedicated to telling the stories of LGBTQ+ people in all their diversity and intersectionality.

“I covered pro-life Log Cabin Republicans on one side and Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence on the other side, and the whole point was to give them a voice so the rest of us could get to know them,” she said. “Honestly, that didn’t mean kowtowing; it meant asking honest questions. But I didn’t have to be rude about it. I could ask hard questions and still be civil.”

She was mostly a freelancer, writing for Frontiers, The Pride LA, and the Blade in Los Angeles, the San Francisco-based Bay Area Reporter, Chicago’s Windy City Times, and more. “Whoever had a publication out there, I either wrote for or tried to write for,” she said.

One of her big achievements was interviewing Hillary Clinton when her husband, Bill Clinton, was first running for president in 1992. Ocamb interviewed Clinton while riding in a van with her and David Mixner between events Clinton was attending in Los Angeles. “In addition to the regular questions I asked her, I asked her if she’d ever lost anybody to AIDS, and I swear … the whole mood, the whole atmosphere, the air in the van changed when she sort of sat back, settled down, and started talking about a dear friend that they had lost, who they knew in D.C., she and Bill Clinton, who they lost to AIDS, and she became a real person then,” Ocamb recalled. At the time, Bill Clinton, as governor of Arkansas, was being criticized for not doing enough about AIDS, but it turned out Arkansas was doing more than California, she added.

But her most important interviews were those she did in hospital rooms with people who were dying of AIDS complications. “It afforded them the dignity of being seen as a real human being” and knowing that someone cared, she said. “This wasn’t about winding up as an inch column in an obit section … but it was about telling the story of this person, and that really meant a lot to me.”

One of the most heartbreaking moments, she said, was when a dying 22-year-old told her his greatest regret was never having fallen in love. “So I said, ‘Well, I can’t give you the romantic love, but I’m here, and I love you, and your story will be told,’” she said. “So those are the stories I’ll remember.”

A few years ago, Steve Ralls, formerly of Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, recruited her to work for him at Public Justice, a public interest law group. She was there for two years, then took the steps toward starting LGBTQ+ Freedom Fighters. She has assistance from Max Huskins, a young straight ally, and sponsorship from the AIDS Healthcare Foundation.

It’s a tough time for journalists and for the LGBTQ+ community, she noted, but she intends to tell stories that can make a difference. Long ago, she saw the connections between anti-LGBTQ+ discrimination and other societal problems, such as poverty resulting from not being able to get a job. “So that’s why I do what I do, and that’s why I continue doing what I do,” she said.

She urges LGBTQ+ people and allies to do whatever they can to fight back—go to a protest, write a check to an organization, or anything else they’re comfortable with. But most of all, she said, “Vote, vote, vote. Don’t be intimidated. Vote. That’s the important thing.”

Check out Karen’s podcast: LGBTQ+ Freedom Fighters with Karen Ocamb

Check out Karen’s Substack here.

Los Angeles County and the cities of Los Angeles, Santa Monica and Beverly Hills declared July 15 “Wallis Annenberg Day” – a local holiday on what would have been the longtime philanthropist’s 87th birthday. She died last July 28 from lung cancer.  

Wallis, chair of the board, president, and CEO of the Annenberg Foundation, oversaw a nonprofit that contributed over $5 billion in grants and support for numerous significant projects and endeavors since 1989 – more recently, many that bear her name, including as founder and president of the Wallis Annenberg Legacy Foundation. 

Santa Monica’s Annenberg Community Beach House – once media mogul William Randolph Hearst’s 5-acre, 110-room opulent home for his movie-star mistress, Marion Davies – will hold a private celebration. Wallis would surreptitiously visit California’s first public beach club just to watch regular folks have a good time.  That’s how she determined her “return on investment” – gauging if the unique space was really serving the “public good.” 

The Wallis is another example. Wallis donated $25 million, which seeded roughly $70 million more over ten years to rescue the historic 1933 Beverly Hills post office. It became the Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts – launched with lots of celebrity fanfare in 2013. The Wallis features the 500-seat Goldsmith Theater, the 150-seat Lovelace Studio Theater, GRoW at The Wallis: A Space for Arts Education, a sculpture garden, and a promenade terrace to enjoy the arts and community.

Annenberg, a lesbian who contributed immensely to benefit AIDS and LGBTQ+ organizations, ensured The Wallis’ inclusive mission and core values.  

“In honor of PRIDE Month and the contributions of the LGBTQIA+ communities, The Wallis welcomes all to join in a joyful celebration of love, identity, and inclusivity,” the June 6 site says. “The day of prideful celebration includes Bob Baker Marionette Theater, Iwalani Music, Everybody Dance LA, Drag Story Time, Color Me Face Painting, and more!”

The Family Pride Fest is actually culturally subversive. Beverly Hills welcomes LGBTQ+ money, but major pockets in the reddish-purple city are Trumpian conservative. A gay employee brought a lawsuit alleging wrongful termination and discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and race at Jimmy Choo’s on Via Rodeo Drive!

The Los Angeles Times headline at her death got it right: Wallis “helped transform LA.” 

“Her name is ubiquitous in public spaces around Los Angeles: the Wallis Annenberg Building at the California Science Center in Exposition Park,” the LA Times wrote, “and the soon-to-debut Wallis Annenberg Wildlife Crossing in Agoura Hills” over the 101 Freeway between the Simi Hills and the Santa Monica Mountains. 

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Wallis also created a space for seniors at the Wallis Annenberg GenSpace in Koreatown and the Wallis Annenberg PetSpace, an animal shelter in Silicon Beach that helps rehabilitate “unadoptable” animals before placing them for adoption. 

In 2009, Wallis founded the Annenberg Space for Photography in Century City. The site closed during Covid in 2020, but the Annenberg Foundation site features tons of art, photography, films, streaming, and live webcams. Wallis was also a longtime board member of the Los Angeles County Museum of Art and L.A.’s Museum of Contemporary Art. She gave $10 million in 2002 to endow LACMA’s director’s position.

The Annenberg Foundation also responded to the Palisades and Eaton wildfires, funding recovery efforts through nonprofits and organizations such as the Los Angeles Fire Department Foundation and the Team Rubicon Response Fund.

Wallis received many accolades and awards, including the National Humanities Medal from President Joe Biden in 2022.

“Wallis believed that communities flourish when people invest in one another,” Wallis’ adult children Lauren Bon, Gregory Annenberg Weingarten, and Charles Annenberg Weingarten, directors on the Annenberg Foundation board, said in a joint statement when “Wallis Annenberg Day” was declared. 

Lauren also offered a unique insight, aligning Wallis’ character with the city she loved.  

“My mother came to Los Angeles from a diasporic tradition — from a history that understood movement, reinvention, memory, and the search for belonging. She chose Los Angeles not as a backdrop, but as a place where the future was always being improvised in plain sight. She understood the city’s contradictions: its glamour and loneliness, invention and neglect, vastness and hunger for connection,” Lauren said in a statement released by her Metabolic Studio.

“She also understood that women of her generation were often invited to care, but not always invited to decide. My mother did both. She cared, and she decided. Through her philanthropy, she worked to alter the conditions under which people might live, learn, age, gather, create, and belong.

“For her, care was not a sentiment. Care was infrastructure. It was a door that opened, a classroom, a theater, a beach house, a place for older people to remain visible, a place for animals to be regarded with tenderness, a bridge built so wildlife might cross a wound made in the land.

“She noticed where the connection had been broken, and she did not accept brokenness as permanent.

Wallis Annenberg Day not only remembers her, but asks something of us: What kind of city do we build when care is treated as public work?”

“Wallis Annenberg Day” is the triumph of a virtually self-made woman finally being recognized for what she accomplished and the human being who trudged that long road from “brokenness” to public service to transform LA and people’s lives. 

Oh, Wallis could be a bitch with a big snarky bite. But her friends often knew about her struggles and would give her a pass or, especially in 12 Step programs, would gently or firmly tell her to get over herself and get back in the lifeboat. 

Several public profiles line up with what Wallis told me about herself during the short time in the late 1980s when we were together. Specifically, “Prodigal Daughter” by Stephen Schiff in the June 1985 issue of Vanity Fair and Bob Colacello’s “Her Own Kind of Annenberg” in Vanity Fair’s October 2009 Issue (published September 14, 2009) are rich with stories and candid interviews with Wallis and some of her friends. 

The June 1985 piece starts off with: “It’s not easy growing up in the shadow of one of the wealthiest men in America, but Wallis Annenberg survived. Now she’s emerging as a major force in Southern California society. Here she tells STEPHEN SCHIFF her secrets of philanthropy and party giving, Hollywood-style.”

Ironically, the bible of high society came out in the same month that a Life Magazine hysterical cover declared: “Now No One Is Safe From AIDS” after movie star Rock Hudson finally revealed he was gay and dying of AIDS. Hudson had been diagnosed on June 5, 1984, with a KS lesion on his neck, three weeks after attending a state dinner. At the Reagan White House. By the end of 1984, 130,400 new HIV infections were reported globally. 

Wallis’s close friend Joan Rivers was already among mostly women entertainers who were trying to raise money to fight AIDS. Interestingly, Wallis had just met Elizabeth Taylor for the first time on July 16, 1984, when she presented Taylor with the Helen T. Devereux Award at the ceremony in Beverly Hills. 

They became friends, and according to a 2022 Vanity Fair report on an Elizabeth Taylor book, it was a note from Wallis that convinced Taylor to co-chair the first critical APLA Commitment to Life gala on Sept.19, 1985, where more than 2,500 people raised $1.3 million for APLA.  

“Bill Misenhimer was the director of AIDS Project Los Angeles, and he knew that he needed Taylor’s help,” the report says. “In the end, Misenhimer said, he had to present a note from the philanthropist Wallis Annenberg, who was working with APLA [via lesbian attorney Diane Abbitt and LA Times society columnist MaryLouise Oates], to prove to Taylor that they were a legitimate organization committed to helping AIDS patients.” 

Wallis signed on former First Lady Betty Ford to co-chair, as well. In 1975, after Wallis hit bottom following her ugly public divorce, she went to the new Betty Ford Center in Rancho Mirage for therapy and to get clean and sober. Elizabeth Taylor made history as the first major Hollywood celebrity to go to the Betty Ford Center in 1983.  

And then the world changed, not only for people with AIDS and Hollywood but for gay people who were being outed by AIDS and abandoned by family and friends, as well as still closeted people like Wallis who had to try hard to pass as straight or lose their family, friends, and status, too. 

“If it weren’t for homosexuals, there would be no culture,” Taylor said that night, promising a lifelong commitment to fighting AIDS. “The idea that God should choose his children [to suffer]—his geniuses to whom he had given the talent to make it a different, more beautiful place for us mere mortals—made me so angry.”

By Dec. 19, 1985, the fear was so great that the Los Angeles Times reported that a survey of 2,308 people indicated that 51% would support quarantining people with AIDS.

Wallis was afraid of AIDS, too. One afternoon, when I came home from seeing my friend Johnny Pipkin, who was dying of AIDS, I went to give Wallis a hug. She backed off, holding her hand out to stop me, telling me to go take a shower. 

I was surprised. But then I remembered when I sat with my 12 Step sponsor, Stephen Pender, as he was dying. I had a cut on my finger, and I was afraid I might “catch” HIV/AIDS by holding his sweaty arm. I held him anyway. It was 1985, just before I met Wallis. We all gave each other a lot more grace then.

Wallis Annenberg could be cold, a spoiled child, a snarky bitch – and she could be funny, ironically self-deprecating, a loving mother, brave and caring, and transcend all the stares and shifty pleas from people hungry for money and strive to be of real public service.   

“Proof of a person,” Wallis Annenberg said at the Sephardic Hebrew Academy, “is when idealism is matched by her deeds.” 

Wallis Annenberg earned her “Wallis Annenberg Day” of recognition.

Check out her chat with Good Mornings CBS:

This is a cross-post from Karen Ocamb’s LGBTQ+ Freedom Fighters Substack.

Wearing a flag saying “protect trans kids” and waving a large transgender flag, Colin Campbell stands with a handful of other protestors outside of Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles every Thursday. 

In June 2025, the hospital announced it would stop its gender affirming services for transgender youth and young adults. Leadership cited major budget cut threats and federal investigation probes from Donald Trump’s administration for its decision. By the end of July 2025, its Center for Transyouth Health and Development closed.

“Across the country, bills all over are targeting transgender people from health care and access to participation in public life,” Campbell said. “This fascist administration is trying to erase trans people. Restrictions on gender-affirming care put lives at risk, especially for young people and families with limited resources.”

For the last year, Campbell has led the protest charge against the hospital’s decision.

“We’re the longest ongoing weekly street protest for trans kids in the United States, and probably the world,” Campbell said. “This is the civil rights issue of our time.”

Campbell has been to almost every weekly protest since Feb. 20, 2025, as a volunteer for Protect Trans Youth LA. Protect Trans Youth LA is a group of care providers and community members aiming to protect gender affirming care and the safety of trans youth.

“The reason why I admire trans people so much is because they challenge the strict behavioral expectations placed on everyone, and they allow everyone more freedom,” Campbell said.

Rain or shine, at least one person is always protesting outside the hospital each Thursday night at 6 p.m.

”Sometimes it’s just me; sometimes it’s four other people,” Campbell said. “A month or two ago, there were 40 people. It really depends on how much we get the word out there, but we always make sure there’s someone.”

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Campbell isn’t new to activism and its importance. He first got involved in activism as a member of ACT UP in 1987 because the government was ignoring victims of the AIDS crisis.

“We fought because we had no choice but to,” he said of his youth activism. “We were dying.”

He felt called to action when he saw Kamala Harris lose the 2024 election and when he saw the immediate attempts to limit trans rights after Trump took office.

He said trans people need allies now more than ever.

“There’s fear in the community, and all the trans kids and trans adults that were marching with us early on in this fight have gone underground,” Campbell said. “They’re afraid because there is danger in our simple protesting.”

Previously, there have been incidents where people jumped out of their cars to harass protestors, physical assaults have happened multiple times, and slurs were commonly yelled early on. Campbell was almost run over by a truck.

“I also think it’s very important that the LGBTQ+ community becomes more united on this issue,” Campbell said. “I’m not a trans person; I’m a cis white gay male, but I’m looking to see more of the letters of the LGBTQ+ involved in this.”

“The time for our community to be fighting for trans rights, and especially trans children, is now,” he added.

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During Pride Month, Protect Trans Youth LA launched a petition on Change.org, urging the Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles to continue providing evidence-based care to children.

The petition is addressed to Paul S. Viviano, president and chief executive officer, and is titled “No Child Should Be Denied Care Because of Gender.”

As of July 3, over 200 people have signed, verified by Change.org. 

“Week after week, our message has remained consistent: Children deserve healthcare decisions guided by patients, families, and medical professionals—not politics,” a portion of the petition says. “Behind every policy decision is a child, a family, and a future.”

The demands the petition lists include restoring access to gender-affirming care for trans youth, restoring services the hospital’s Center for Transyouth Health and Development used to provide, and reaffirming its commitment to providing healthcare “free from discrimination.”

“This petition is not about politics,” a portion of the petition said. “It is about fairness. It is about equal treatment.”

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All Pride Month, Campbell has hit the usual Pride circuit to get signatures on this matter. At Weho Pride, Campbell handed out nearly 5,000 postcards and 1,000 stickers.

Campbell’s activism was highlighted at this year’s Venice Pride. He was honored with the Bill Rosendahl Pioneer of the Year Award for his “tireless advocacy on behalf of transgender youth.”

He was also presented with a certificate of recognition on behalf of the City of Los Angeles and the 11th Council District for his “extraordinary advocacy, leadership, and unwavering commitment to equality.”

“Your efforts have sparked important public dialogue, mobilized thousands of supporters, reaffirmed the values of dignity, fairness, and inclusion that strengthen our communities,” a portion of the certificate said. “The City of Los Angeles proudly recognizes your contributions to advancing equality and protecting the rights and well-being of LGBTQ+ youth.”

As discussions around identity and self-understanding continue to evolve, research has shown us an important connection between the autistic and LGBTQ+ communities. Studies consistently provide empirical evidence that autistic people are significantly more likely to identify as transgender, nonbinary, bisexual, asexual, or otherwise part of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum. Yet despite the data, public awareness of this intersection is still limited, often overshadowed by antiquated assumptions about autism and a lack of knowledge about how neurodiversity and identity development can intersect. As Pride Month honors the power of authenticity, these conversations have never been more appropriately timed.

Dr. Laurie Stephens, Director of Autism Studies at Help Group, has spent more than three decades working in the mental health field and has become an esteemed voice on the experiences of neurodiverse LGBTQ+ folks. In our conversation, Stephens shares what current research tells us about the overlap between autism and LGBTQ+ identities, the unique challenges faced by those navigating both communities, and the importance of affirming support, self-acceptance, and authentic living. Drawing on both research and lived experiences shared by clients, Stephens provides us with insights into resilience, advocacy, and the progress being made toward a more inclusive understanding of human diversity.

Many folks may likely be hearing about the overlap between the autistic and LGBTQ+ communities for the first time. What has data shown and why do you think this relationship is not well known to the general public?

There is fairly strong evidence that autistic people are substantially more likely than the general population to identify as LGBTQIA+, and researchers have identified increased overlap specifically with transgender, bisexual, nonbinary and asexual identities.  In short, studies generally report that autistic people are 2–3× more likely to identify as LGBTQIA+ overall and 3–6× more likely to report gender diversity or transgender identity. 

I feel the overlap may not be well-known to the general population due to misperceptions that conceptualize autistic people as socially interested, emotionally unattached and lacking desire for relationships and/or sexual encounters. In addition, the research on the intersectionality of autism and LGBTQIA+ identities is still new, and it can often take many years (up to 10) for research to spill over and be accepted by the general population. 

Research has told us that autistic people are more likely to identify as trans, nonbinary, and gender-diverse. They are also more likely to identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, asexual, or otherwise outside traditional heterosexual norms. What do you think this can tell us about identity development and self-understanding?

I think what the research and the lived experience voices tell us is not that autism “causes” LGBTQIA+ identities, but that the overlap reveals something important about how identity develops when social conformity exerts less influence over a person. A common finding in autism research is that autistic people tend to be less guided by implicit social norms. They often learn social rules intellectually rather than automatically absorbing them, and often have a strong sense of ethics. This can create difficulties in some contexts, but it may also produce a different relationship to identity. 

It may show us that autistic people are more authentic in their identity development, as they are not always as constrained by social norms or expectations. They may feel freer and at ease with not fitting in or being a part of the “establishment.”

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When someone is both neurodivergent and LGBTQ+, what unique challenges can occur that may not be fully understood by either community individually?

It is important to consider the research on dual (or multiple) minority status when considering the challenges faced by autistic/neurodivergent LGBTQIA+ folks. We know from this research that multiple identities are not the sum of each identity. Rather, they are multiplicative in many ways. For example, an autistic person attempting to navigate LGBTQIA+ spaces may find a lack of consideration of sensory needs, physical and emotional overwhelm, differing communication styles, or the functionality of “stimming.” Likewise, in some autism spaces, there may be an inherent assumption of heterosexuality or lack of sexual/relationship interest, and thus no acknowledgement or discussion of SOGIE (sexual orientation, gender identity, and expression) may even take place. Clients have also said that they don’t feel fully understood or validated in solely autistic-focused or solely LGBTQIA+-focused environments.

Further, both identities have a long history of masking who they are, and when one identifies as both autistic and LGBTQIA+, I often find that one of these identities gets masked for longer than when one has a singular identity. Research has been clear on the significant mental health challenges that come from masking, including an increase in depression, self-harm, suicidal thoughts/behaviors, anxiety, and eating disorders. 

Another challenge I have found with many of my autistic transgender clients is that sensory factors can play an often unrecognized (and unstudied) role in gender identity and expressions. Sensory processing issues can influence clothing preferences (cannot tolerate wearing pants, discomfort in tight clothing), body awareness (posture, sitting positions), hair styles (cannot tolerate the feel of hair on neck, can’t handle tightness on hair such as wearing a headband or hair tie), and physical intimacy (cannot handle the feeling of skin on skin). This can lead to autistic transgender folks experiencing increased gender dysphoria as it becomes intertwined with sensory needs/preferences in complicated ways.

From your perspective, are there parallels between the experiences of coming out as queer and receiving an autism diagnosis later in life?

There are some clear parallels here. One is that both identities have been historically marginalized; thus, the fear of coming out is real for both autistic and LGBTQIA+ folks, particularly within our current socio-political landscape. Both populations have likely spent a long time feeling different and being unsure of their identities; both go through a long questioning process. With the autistic community, it may be challenging or overwhelming to seek out diagnostic confirmation of your feelings of being autistic, which can delay the coming out process. 

But, on the contrary, coming out/getting the diagnosis often confirms feelings of otherness and difference that autistic and LGBTQIA folks experience. These identities can provide a framework from which they can both understand themselves better and to not feel isolated or alone. For both identities, coming out can be the start of acceptance, of themselves and by their broader communities.

In your experience, what does affirming support actually look like when it works well?

In my experience as a therapist, affirming support works best when the person’s identity isn’t necessarily the focus of therapy or discussions. It shows up through acknowledging and accepting the person as who they say they are and not questioning their identity. It’s adapting to their individual needs and goals, rather than assuming that being autistic or LGBTQIA+ alone is the driving mechanism behind their challenges or why they are seeking therapy to begin with. 

For example, with one of my transgender clients, her gender identity is rarely the focus of therapy, as it is in and of itself not the underlying cause of her challenges. Affirming support is best realized when the message the client (or person) receives is that we accept who they say they are, and we acknowledge that they are the expert in their identity and their own lived experience.

Many people report feeling unheard or misunderstood within healthcare systems. What are some of the more significant gaps that still exist when it comes to serving neurodiverse LGBTQ+ folks?

The biggest gap is the lack of awareness of the intersectionality of neurodiversity and LGBTQIA+ identities. Too often, one identity or the other may be ignored or downplayed, such as telling an LGBTQIA+ person that they don’t “look autistic.”   Further, many health care providers are not trained to work with intersecting identities and thus may feel ill-equipped to work with an autistic LGBTQIA+ person. A provider trained in working with the LGBTQIA+ community may not understand the communication styles of an autistic person, for example. As noted above, there is also a fallacious belief among people who lack experience with the autistic community that autistic people are not emotionally or romantically interested in other people, which often leads to downplaying the person’s questioning of their gender or sexuality. 

The single most important change that should happen, in my opinion, is that everyone who works with the autistic population should undergo training in LGBTQIA+ identities, and those who serve the LGBTQIA+ community should also receive training in working with the neurodiverse/autistic community. 

The conversation around autism has evolved in recent years, moving from awareness toward acceptance and, in turn, inclusion. Do you see this evolution reflected in LGBTQ+ advocacy?

I think there are some parallels here, as LGBTQIA+ advocacy’s early focus was also on becoming “visible” (awareness) and has moved toward acceptance (we belong). Both advocacy movements have a strong focus on reducing stigma associated with autism and LGBTQIA+ identities. Both have worked toward creating safe environments within the broader community. I think both advocacy movements have also challenged the “social norm” and worked toward others accepting differences as part of the human condition. 

Mental health concerns like anxiety, depression, and social isolation can be elevated among both autistic and LGBTQ+ populations. What protections have you seen make a positive impact on mental health?

Extrapolating from research done several years ago by the Trevor Project, the biggest protective factor is having at least one supportive/affirming person in your life. Beyond this, I feel that mental health services that are truly affirming and focus on authenticity over masking are the most helpful. Finding a community is also key. Self-belief and embracing one’s identities are also important protective factors. Accepting yourself in the same way as you accept others (like radical self-compassion) can be extremely helpful.  And for some, getting involved with advocacy organizations can help folks feel like they have some agency in how others treat or view them, what rights they have/are entitled to, and providing the lived experience voices needed to allow those from outside the community to begin to understand, affirm, and accept. 

What have the neurodiverse LGBTQ+ folks that you’ve worked with taught you about resilience and self-acceptance?

My neurodiverse LGBTQIA+ clients have taught me that to be truly authentic one needs to fully accept themselves and stop taking in societal negativity. Being different isn’t a bad thing and our diversity is what makes humans so interesting. I’ve discovered that self-acceptance is contagious, in that I’ve actually become more accepting and open regarding my own neurodivergence. I’ve seen the high levels of resilience that neurodiverse LGBTQIA+ folks have, particularly in our current political landscape, where autistic and LGBTQIA identities are at times denigrated, yet advocacy and lived experience voices are at their strongest.

As Pride Month celebrates visibility, what does visibility mean for people who have historically felt unseen by both the neurodiverse and LGBTQ+ communities?

To me, events like Pride Month and Autism Acceptance Month give a voice to those who are often not listened to. Feeling like you have some agency in how the world sees you or thinks about you is a powerful tool that I think is often overlooked, and Pride and Autism Awareness months offer these opportunities. Visibility allows the unheard and unseen to speak up, to share their experiences, and to also find their own community. It’s a validation that you are not alone, that you are valid as a person, that you are loved, and that you are accepted.

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What gives you hope? Are you seeing real progress in how society understands and supports people living at this intersection of these particular identities?

What gives me hope is the current focus on lived-experience voices and the increased acceptance of a social model of disability over a medical model. The fact that many communities are open to accommodating differences, such as using gender neutral language or offering gender neutral bathrooms, or providing sensory-friendly events, means that progress is happening. There is still a long way to go, but in my 30+ years in the field of mental health, I have been able to see how much of society is open to learning more about autistic, LGBTQIA+, or neurodiverse identities and accepting people for who they are. With young people now being exposed to so many different identities, it allows others to see they aren’t alone and that it is OK to be out and proud.

Another thing that resonates with me is seeing how many more people are identifying and embracing their intersectionalities. Every year at LA Pride events, there are more young folks who come into our Kaleidoscope booth. They proudly and openly identify as autistic and LGBTQIA+, and often are accompanied by supportive parents, families, or friends. Seeing an increase in pride in both identities is what keeps me so invested in the work I do. 

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Many people spend years, or sometimes decades, of their lives feeling different without fully understanding why. For someone reading this interview who may be questioning their own identity, neurodivergence, or sense of belonging, what would you most want them to hear this Pride Month?

I would want people who may be questioning to know that they are not alone and that the path to self-discovery is not something that needs to be rushed. Sometimes our identities unfold over time, or even change, and that’s OK. I want people to know that neurodiversity has had a positive impact in our world, as most of our discoveries, inventions, art, and creativity came about because people think differently, act differently, process information differently, and experience the world differently. This is to be embraced, rather than seen as a negative. And discovering who you are, be that autistic, neurodiverse, LGBTQIA+, is not closing the door on anything; rather, it opens the door to authenticity, self-understanding and ultimately, self-acceptance.

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